do you know of any thing that helps with pcos (polycystic ovarian syndrome)Any good advice for people suffering from pcos ?
I have PCOS, I found out about it when I was 17 after years of weight problems and irregular periods.
The only thing I found was trying to keep my weight down and eating a low sugar diet.
The weight thing hasn't always been successful but the most important thing I have found is to keep to the low sugar diet. What you have to remember is having PCOS can cause excess weight but can also make it difficult to lose weight, just a vicious circle when you think about it. Having a low sugar diet helps because having PCOS can muck around with insulin and from my own experience my body can't handle sugar and decides to just go straight to my waist. It's typical for a woman with PCOS to have an 'apple' figure.
I am now currently 29 weeks pregnant, which I never thought would happen but there you are, unfortunately since being pregnant I have had a sweeter tooth which isn't good but I'm told having a baby can cure PCOS as people with PCOS has hormone imbalances and having a baby can help to regulate this.
If you're not planning on having children just yet then there are certain contraceptive pills that help so it's worth talking to your GP about it.
Other symptoms of PCOS are greasy skin, excess hair growth and spots.
I hope this helps.Any good advice for people suffering from pcos ?
my sister in law has pcos and through talking to her I have heard a few things that can help with pcos. First lose weight if your over weight, this can help with insulin resistance and help regulate periods in some woman. Follow a low carb diet and eat plenty of fruit and vegeatables along with making sure you drink at least 8 glasses of cold water a day. Exercise help aswell by increasing your metabolism. Agnus castus which is a herbla remedy can also help balance homones and regulate periods. Some woman also recommend using progesterone cream however my sister in law has no experience of this. Good luck
I have PCOS and have been having Accupuncture for a couple of months. For the first time in years I have a regular cycle. Go ahead and give it a try, although make sure you find someone who has had the proper training. I always feel a lot more awake and like I want to eat less after a visit. It sounds really horrid, but it's not! I was also feeling quite depressed when I first went and now feel so much better. Also as previously said, try to lose some weight too.
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I read an article yesterday that suggests spiriment tea is good to reduce symptoms of excess hair growth in women that have PCOS. It may also lower the testosterone levels. I am going to try it. It won't hurt anything. Good luck!
Hi heres a few suggestions for you to ty
eat a sensible well ballanced diet with fresh fruit -vegetables - lean meat - nuts - fibre and good fats
Get some gentle exercise
drink water
if your over weight try to lose some as excess weight causes more problems
dont smoke and drink alcohol
start taking folic acid before you try to concieve
there is a couple of medicines that your ob / gyn might precrisbe you these are clomid - to induce ovulation
metformin - this is to regulate insulin as some women with pcos are insulin resistant.
provera - progesterone tablets given to induce a period sometimes before a dose of clomid.
agnus castus - a natural herb that regulates hormones bought from health stores good luck
For me, the best thing, other than metformin and a healthy diet, has been a positive attitude, and educating myself. Take the time to learn and read all that you can. Become an active part of your health care.
I went on metformin, and I eat a low g/i diet. I exercise regularly, and take my vitamins. I talked to my doctor about adding a drug called Byetta, which is a newer diabetes drug and is being prescribed off label (that means not for it's official use) for PCOS. I take time to keep up with ways to treat it, and what other people are having success doing. I know that in February, the New England Journal of Medicine published a new article about using Clomid to help with ovulation and pregnancy being more effective in women with PCOS than metformin alone.
Check out the website soulcysters.com for lots of great information and support from other women with PCOS. And take charge of your care.
Only advice:STAY POSITIVE ALWAYS.
its easy for everyone to speculate how you may never concieve youll just have to get used to it etc..
But you just stay positive and watch it happen okay so maybe not as soon as others but it will and has for many others that i know some have even fallen pregnant very fast.If you keep your outlook positive and if it doesent happen soon remember it isnt happening for many of us healthy ladies too and you may fall before us.
lose excess weight
There is so much advice out there it is overwhelming. what seems to be consistent is this:
1a) If you are overweight then you should try to loose weight. It is hard to loose weight with PCOS b/c your body responds differently to food and dieting. Try a low carb diet. Also try either cinnamon tablets or 1 tsp of cinnamon a day. You can even sprincke it over your cereal. Or you can try apple cider vinegar, 2 tbp a day in water or 8oz. of another beverage. Both have been proven to help with insulin resistance which is a major contributor to PCOS. They have similar results to metformin, which is a precription drug for insulin resistance that is being used for PCOS.
1b) If you are not overweight then you may still have insulin resistance. follow the instructions above except there is no reason to loose weight, just try to eat a healthy good carb diet. Definitely use apple cider or cinammon.
2) Take supplements: good multi-vitamin, B complex, omega fish oils %26amp; NAC.
3) Herbal supplements: vitex/chasteberry
4) To reduce testosterone. I've heard that saw palmetto helps and green tea. Don't use saw palmetto if trying to conceive.
5) Try acupuncture and chinese herbs. Find someone that specializes in gyn/reproductive issues. I'm doing acupuncture and chinese herbs. My acupuncturist was able to put together very specialized herbs for me that address my issues.
6) Even if you are not trying to conceive I highly recommend this book, The infertility cure.
7) Don't use birth control pills. It is a temporary fix that actually makes the problem worst in the long-run. I would recommend using metformin. If you need to induce a period then use provera, so that you can menstrate at least every three months. Or try to naturally induce a late period with ginger tea or parsley tea.
Best of luck.
I have this condition.
For the mood swings i encounter i take St Johns Wort, Metamorfin made me very depressed it was vile i only took it for 6 weeks and i felt suicidal. I also take Omega 3 everyday this helps with my mood and my skin is so soft!! Plus Multibiotin vitamin tablet.
Good luck
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Why do people give dog behavior advice over the internet?
On this site and many others I see average laypeople trying to give advice on how to address aggression, fear and shyness and other behavior problems.
What worked on your dog or what you saw on tv is relevent to that specific situation and does not apply to every dog or every situation. Behavior problems should be evaluated and addressed on an individual basis by a professional. The wrong advice will make problems worse or create a problem that was not previously there.
Dog owners should first contact their local SPCA or shelter for recommendations on local trainers and behavior consultants (some shelters have in-house consultants who offer behavior services - some of the top behavior specialists in the country work for shelters).
While changing behavior does involve working with the dog, a HUGE part of the process is working with the owner, to help them improve their technique and timing. None of this can be accomplished through advice over the internet.Why do people give dog behavior advice over the internet?
I agree with you. And, for the most part I do see that the better answers tell the person to take the dog to the vet or to enroll in obedience classes or search for a dog behaviorist.
On the other hand, the average American dog owner will not even spend the money to put their dog through a beginner dog training class. They don't spend the time to socialize the dog. Then when the dog has behavior problems the solution most the time is dumping it in a shelter or giving it away.
So, if some free advise on the Internet can get these folks to maybe try something suggested and maybe see some improvement and then maybe they will enroll the dog in a class or phone the SPCA and ask about a consultation with a behaviorist.
I'd like to see people have to pass a test before being allowed to own a dog sort of like passing a test before being allowed to drive. Not ever go to happen, but it sure would cut down on the dogs in shelters.Why do people give dog behavior advice over the internet?
Because cheap fools ask for it?
Canine behavior is something I know like the back of my hand. It is not breed specific.
As a Canine Behaviorist, Master Dog Trainer %26amp; groomed for 15 years specializing in behavioral problems I know the advise I give people is a tool that can be used to correct a specific behavior. I give at least two or three ways of going about what they need to do to attain the best results.
I know that we assume a lot of things in our answers but the questions are so vague I usually ask for more information. I have been contacted many times after a post for further advise.
But if people would just associate canine behavior to their dogs instead of human behavior they would better understand the little creature they have.
I have found on this site %26amp; from working for the public that people are just plain ignorant. They simply don't know.
Most of my suggestions %26amp;/or advise is from knowing what I know. From years of study %26amp; personal experience I give freely for what I had to pay thousands for. I just want people to undersand what they are facing %26amp; how to go about fixing issues that pop up.
I have quit answering some questions because they are ask over %26amp; over again, day after day. Those I suggest that they use the 'search for questions' in the green bar at the top of the page.
A fear biter is a fear biter reguardless of the breed. A biting puppy need to be corrected for it, Aggression is something that needs a one on one training with a trainer who can work that specific dog %26amp; I advise that people do contact a trainer so that it can be done on a one on one basis.
I know what you are saying. I have seen some answers that I wish I could just eliminate off the site, they are so far off it is pathetic.
I am too much of a animal person to fool around the behavioral issues. I swears that my answers are to the best of my knowledge %26amp; experience.
You are correct but you must also realize that not everyone has access to services that you have described. I was talking with a gentleman from India and they have no clue what to do there. I give only basic advice. What I know works. I would never give any advice about aggressive dogs or extremely submissive or fearfully shy dogs. They can become biters and must be handled with care and with a professionals advice.
People also want a quick fix and you know as well as I do that it doesn't exist. They don't want to take the dog for obedience training or cant afford to or don't have it available to them.
I will continue to give basic advice but if I can tell it needs a professional then that's what I answer.
You also have to know that most people here cant afford even obedience training never mind getting a behaviorist in to evaluate their dog. So even though your correct it rarely happens.
It is just as possible to get good behavioral advice over the internet as it is reading or talking to someone or taking a class. You just have to know how to filter out the ...well, that stuff and get the best advice for use.
Advice over the internet is, by no means, a subsitute for professional vet care and advice. however, if one is unable to reach a vet quickly, he/she can seek the advice of other experts or knowledgeable people over the internet for general advice on helping and treating their pets.
There is nothing wrong with trying info over the internet, but one should be aware of the apparent risks and be sure the procedure will nto harm the pet (s).
But as a rule of thumb, a vet should be mandatory. But there is nothing wrong with asking for general help if one is in a situation which he cannot see a vet quickly or do not have enough money.
Well a lot of people do answer that you should get a professional, but then offer advice on what worked for them. I don't think this is their only source of information.
On that same note a lot of trainers are awful! They make the problems worse some only want positive reinforcement and just ignore them when they are bad and others are overly forceful using harsh corrections. Some are just as stubborn as the dog and refuse to believe they need to try something else for certain dog personalities.
Also some of the behavior problems are not that life altering that you need a pro although aggression is it would not be my advice to call a pro for potty training.
I am not a professional but have worked with my dog with several of them the first one I fired because he was too harsh the second one tried several things until we found something that worked and I don't have a SPCA where I live we have one larger shelter and a dog pound the shelter is just now putting into effect a behavior program for people with dogs that need more than basic training.
I do hope that this is not the only resource that they are using
I guess its just for a simple advice, but of course you can't always take people's advice because they're not a dog trainer...
Having been in the profession for more than 45 years and having earned a good living doing something that I thoroughly enjoyed I think that I have something to offer. I am an altruist by nature anyway. I have taken many, many courses to produce good dependable Police Dogs. I have trained Drugs Dogs and Explosives Detection Dogs. I feel that it's a shame to waste a lifetimes experience and not use it to try to help people. Whether they accept the advice is entirely their affair. My friend is a vet and in the past I have sat in and assisted in operations and I consider myself very fortunate to have done that. I had the honour and privilege to assist in the spaying of my own *****! How many people can say that?
I will only give advice on things that I KNOW, not just surmise. I leave it to others to recommend websites etc because I have even found stuff on those that I consider rubbish and tend to misguide the gullible.
I do not advise some of you people on what outfits to dress your dogs up in because I am not qualified in Haute Couture.I hate the idea of a regal looking Shepherd dressed in a frock anyway! I do not advise on names. The age limit for this is supposed to be thirteen and if someone of that age cannot think of a name for their own dog. I dispair!
I do not advise on Cockapoos and any other fancy name that people in the States particularly seem to like to call their mongrels, curs and crossbreeds. However lovable they are that is all that they will remain. They are not DESIGNER DOGS and never will be!
One of the things I hate about answers is those that start their answer with ';I don't know but....'; If you don't know then butt out!
If you want an answer to your question, I think it's because people ask for advice on behavior. This is a question and answer site. It is not wrong to ask the question-if they are asking, they know they have a problem, so they are halfway to a solution already. Unfortunately, not everyone can be as knowledgeable as a dog trainer.
From my perspective a large part of this is due to the fact that everyone thinks they know how to train dogs. Ignore the fact that they have one of the most ill mannered dogs in the world, they think they know what they're doing.
Cost is probably the most common other reason.
I actually have to laugh at most of the replies that I see. It is usually quite apparent that they person replying doesn't know what they are talking about.
In Illinois, as in many states, there is nothing to prevent anyone from putting out a shingle saying that they are a professional dog trainer. In Chicago they have a woman who uses some pretty abusive methods to train dogs (multiple electronic collars). She claims to be a disciple of the ';dog whisperer';. I won't make any comments about him. She has a website where she offers a $10,000.00 challenge to anyone to go against her. Fascinating is that one of the BIG requirements of her challenge is that she picks the judges.
I've been teaching obedience for 30+ years and tracking for 20+ years and still have a LOT to learn.
Two suggestions that I would add.
1 - Go to a class WITHOUT your dog. If you're not comfortable with the training methods, there usually is a reason for it.
2 - Most reputable trainers can give you a LONG list of people who have gone to them for lessons.
People give ';advice'; over the internet because there are others out there who don't want the expense involved in calling the specialist for the help they need.
Since they CHOOSE to ask us for answers, many of us try to help as much as we can. I can't speak for the others, but for myself I understand I am not the professional and I realize that what worked for me doesn't work for everyone else, and only a few will get the same results from the same interaction I have used. I figure that giving what help I can is better than ignoring someone who has ASKED for my help. I know my answers aren't the only possible solution, nor will they work for everyone, but when someone asks, I try to help as much as I can.
I also usually suggest they visit websites with more information than I have and/or call or go to their vet.
What many people do not realize is that behavioral changes in your dog require you to make a strong effort by going to training WITH your dog so YOU LEARN how to train him properly. That is always best and that is generally what I recommend when it comes to behavioral problems.
So why do we give advice?
Because someone asked and wants an answer.
We know our answers aren't perfect.
Because people come on Y!Answers for advice. DOH!
What worked on your dog or what you saw on tv is relevent to that specific situation and does not apply to every dog or every situation. Behavior problems should be evaluated and addressed on an individual basis by a professional. The wrong advice will make problems worse or create a problem that was not previously there.
Dog owners should first contact their local SPCA or shelter for recommendations on local trainers and behavior consultants (some shelters have in-house consultants who offer behavior services - some of the top behavior specialists in the country work for shelters).
While changing behavior does involve working with the dog, a HUGE part of the process is working with the owner, to help them improve their technique and timing. None of this can be accomplished through advice over the internet.Why do people give dog behavior advice over the internet?
I agree with you. And, for the most part I do see that the better answers tell the person to take the dog to the vet or to enroll in obedience classes or search for a dog behaviorist.
On the other hand, the average American dog owner will not even spend the money to put their dog through a beginner dog training class. They don't spend the time to socialize the dog. Then when the dog has behavior problems the solution most the time is dumping it in a shelter or giving it away.
So, if some free advise on the Internet can get these folks to maybe try something suggested and maybe see some improvement and then maybe they will enroll the dog in a class or phone the SPCA and ask about a consultation with a behaviorist.
I'd like to see people have to pass a test before being allowed to own a dog sort of like passing a test before being allowed to drive. Not ever go to happen, but it sure would cut down on the dogs in shelters.Why do people give dog behavior advice over the internet?
Because cheap fools ask for it?
Canine behavior is something I know like the back of my hand. It is not breed specific.
As a Canine Behaviorist, Master Dog Trainer %26amp; groomed for 15 years specializing in behavioral problems I know the advise I give people is a tool that can be used to correct a specific behavior. I give at least two or three ways of going about what they need to do to attain the best results.
I know that we assume a lot of things in our answers but the questions are so vague I usually ask for more information. I have been contacted many times after a post for further advise.
But if people would just associate canine behavior to their dogs instead of human behavior they would better understand the little creature they have.
I have found on this site %26amp; from working for the public that people are just plain ignorant. They simply don't know.
Most of my suggestions %26amp;/or advise is from knowing what I know. From years of study %26amp; personal experience I give freely for what I had to pay thousands for. I just want people to undersand what they are facing %26amp; how to go about fixing issues that pop up.
I have quit answering some questions because they are ask over %26amp; over again, day after day. Those I suggest that they use the 'search for questions' in the green bar at the top of the page.
A fear biter is a fear biter reguardless of the breed. A biting puppy need to be corrected for it, Aggression is something that needs a one on one training with a trainer who can work that specific dog %26amp; I advise that people do contact a trainer so that it can be done on a one on one basis.
I know what you are saying. I have seen some answers that I wish I could just eliminate off the site, they are so far off it is pathetic.
I am too much of a animal person to fool around the behavioral issues. I swears that my answers are to the best of my knowledge %26amp; experience.
You are correct but you must also realize that not everyone has access to services that you have described. I was talking with a gentleman from India and they have no clue what to do there. I give only basic advice. What I know works. I would never give any advice about aggressive dogs or extremely submissive or fearfully shy dogs. They can become biters and must be handled with care and with a professionals advice.
People also want a quick fix and you know as well as I do that it doesn't exist. They don't want to take the dog for obedience training or cant afford to or don't have it available to them.
I will continue to give basic advice but if I can tell it needs a professional then that's what I answer.
You also have to know that most people here cant afford even obedience training never mind getting a behaviorist in to evaluate their dog. So even though your correct it rarely happens.
It is just as possible to get good behavioral advice over the internet as it is reading or talking to someone or taking a class. You just have to know how to filter out the ...well, that stuff and get the best advice for use.
Advice over the internet is, by no means, a subsitute for professional vet care and advice. however, if one is unable to reach a vet quickly, he/she can seek the advice of other experts or knowledgeable people over the internet for general advice on helping and treating their pets.
There is nothing wrong with trying info over the internet, but one should be aware of the apparent risks and be sure the procedure will nto harm the pet (s).
But as a rule of thumb, a vet should be mandatory. But there is nothing wrong with asking for general help if one is in a situation which he cannot see a vet quickly or do not have enough money.
Well a lot of people do answer that you should get a professional, but then offer advice on what worked for them. I don't think this is their only source of information.
On that same note a lot of trainers are awful! They make the problems worse some only want positive reinforcement and just ignore them when they are bad and others are overly forceful using harsh corrections. Some are just as stubborn as the dog and refuse to believe they need to try something else for certain dog personalities.
Also some of the behavior problems are not that life altering that you need a pro although aggression is it would not be my advice to call a pro for potty training.
I am not a professional but have worked with my dog with several of them the first one I fired because he was too harsh the second one tried several things until we found something that worked and I don't have a SPCA where I live we have one larger shelter and a dog pound the shelter is just now putting into effect a behavior program for people with dogs that need more than basic training.
I do hope that this is not the only resource that they are using
I guess its just for a simple advice, but of course you can't always take people's advice because they're not a dog trainer...
Having been in the profession for more than 45 years and having earned a good living doing something that I thoroughly enjoyed I think that I have something to offer. I am an altruist by nature anyway. I have taken many, many courses to produce good dependable Police Dogs. I have trained Drugs Dogs and Explosives Detection Dogs. I feel that it's a shame to waste a lifetimes experience and not use it to try to help people. Whether they accept the advice is entirely their affair. My friend is a vet and in the past I have sat in and assisted in operations and I consider myself very fortunate to have done that. I had the honour and privilege to assist in the spaying of my own *****! How many people can say that?
I will only give advice on things that I KNOW, not just surmise. I leave it to others to recommend websites etc because I have even found stuff on those that I consider rubbish and tend to misguide the gullible.
I do not advise some of you people on what outfits to dress your dogs up in because I am not qualified in Haute Couture.I hate the idea of a regal looking Shepherd dressed in a frock anyway! I do not advise on names. The age limit for this is supposed to be thirteen and if someone of that age cannot think of a name for their own dog. I dispair!
I do not advise on Cockapoos and any other fancy name that people in the States particularly seem to like to call their mongrels, curs and crossbreeds. However lovable they are that is all that they will remain. They are not DESIGNER DOGS and never will be!
One of the things I hate about answers is those that start their answer with ';I don't know but....'; If you don't know then butt out!
If you want an answer to your question, I think it's because people ask for advice on behavior. This is a question and answer site. It is not wrong to ask the question-if they are asking, they know they have a problem, so they are halfway to a solution already. Unfortunately, not everyone can be as knowledgeable as a dog trainer.
From my perspective a large part of this is due to the fact that everyone thinks they know how to train dogs. Ignore the fact that they have one of the most ill mannered dogs in the world, they think they know what they're doing.
Cost is probably the most common other reason.
I actually have to laugh at most of the replies that I see. It is usually quite apparent that they person replying doesn't know what they are talking about.
In Illinois, as in many states, there is nothing to prevent anyone from putting out a shingle saying that they are a professional dog trainer. In Chicago they have a woman who uses some pretty abusive methods to train dogs (multiple electronic collars). She claims to be a disciple of the ';dog whisperer';. I won't make any comments about him. She has a website where she offers a $10,000.00 challenge to anyone to go against her. Fascinating is that one of the BIG requirements of her challenge is that she picks the judges.
I've been teaching obedience for 30+ years and tracking for 20+ years and still have a LOT to learn.
Two suggestions that I would add.
1 - Go to a class WITHOUT your dog. If you're not comfortable with the training methods, there usually is a reason for it.
2 - Most reputable trainers can give you a LONG list of people who have gone to them for lessons.
People give ';advice'; over the internet because there are others out there who don't want the expense involved in calling the specialist for the help they need.
Since they CHOOSE to ask us for answers, many of us try to help as much as we can. I can't speak for the others, but for myself I understand I am not the professional and I realize that what worked for me doesn't work for everyone else, and only a few will get the same results from the same interaction I have used. I figure that giving what help I can is better than ignoring someone who has ASKED for my help. I know my answers aren't the only possible solution, nor will they work for everyone, but when someone asks, I try to help as much as I can.
I also usually suggest they visit websites with more information than I have and/or call or go to their vet.
What many people do not realize is that behavioral changes in your dog require you to make a strong effort by going to training WITH your dog so YOU LEARN how to train him properly. That is always best and that is generally what I recommend when it comes to behavioral problems.
So why do we give advice?
Because someone asked and wants an answer.
We know our answers aren't perfect.
Because people come on Y!Answers for advice. DOH!
Why can't superstars like Michael Vick get better advice/guidance from the people around him?
I mean, If I am his agent, I need to protect my income, which means protecting my client from doing anything that would jeopardize his career. Why isn't his family or his business associates protecting him from getting in these situations? I'm sure some of them knew about the dogfighting. I really don't want to make this a race issue, but it's hard not to. Who is giving this man advice, other than his posse?Why can't superstars like Michael Vick get better advice/guidance from the people around him?
Apparently no one. It's quite sad actually, since all the people around him tend to be ';Yes men';. They are only there to please him.
Where is his mother would be a better question.Why can't superstars like Michael Vick get better advice/guidance from the people around him?
He has grown up poor and followed the wrong crowd. That's all he knows. Can't change him. He's probably still surrounded by the wrong people.
You can lead a rock to water, but you can't make it drink.
Ghetto athletes hire ghetto agents so who is going to advise who? No one wants to admit it but it is the truth in most cases. Prove me wrong, in the meantime, for those of you afraid to ';appear racist';, just give me the thumbs down.
All the good advice in the world isn't going to help anyone if the refuse to follow it. You can't force someone to make good decisions, they have to do that on their own.
Unfortunately, agents, sponsors, the public......give them all the incentive to do what ever they want. This is not the first time Vick has been in trouble, but it is the only major one to catch up to him. He probably had agents, friends, attorneys, sponsors, boosters help him out before. But, this time the crime was so serious, nobody wanted to touch it or be associated with him, which is why he got left out in the cold.
I think the better question is: Why don't they listen to the good advice they give? They've got their agents, coaches, team owners, and people that the teams and the NFL hire to try to keep these guys from making bad decisions. With all those people trying to steer them in the right direction, they must really have to fight hard to go the wrong way like they do.
Advice only goes so far. Look at the world today. People do what they want when they want. Many do not consider the consequences for there actions. Or think that nothing bad will ever happen to them. ie get caught or injured. You can talk a mans ear off, about right and wrong, but at the end of the day only your jaw hurts.
Its not that he can't get better advic. its that he will not listen. People like Vick, Michael Jackson, Paris Hilton, and others have so much money they start to believe there own hype, they think the rules do not apply to them.
It is well known in The Falcons circle that Vick does not, nor ever have, hung with his teammates. Sure, they're friends and all but they do NOT hang out.
It's not the fact that people weren't giving him advice it's the fact that he wouldn't listen!!
The fact that he spent so much time outside of the team should have been a red flag to begin with.
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Apparently no one. It's quite sad actually, since all the people around him tend to be ';Yes men';. They are only there to please him.
Where is his mother would be a better question.Why can't superstars like Michael Vick get better advice/guidance from the people around him?
He has grown up poor and followed the wrong crowd. That's all he knows. Can't change him. He's probably still surrounded by the wrong people.
You can lead a rock to water, but you can't make it drink.
Ghetto athletes hire ghetto agents so who is going to advise who? No one wants to admit it but it is the truth in most cases. Prove me wrong, in the meantime, for those of you afraid to ';appear racist';, just give me the thumbs down.
All the good advice in the world isn't going to help anyone if the refuse to follow it. You can't force someone to make good decisions, they have to do that on their own.
Unfortunately, agents, sponsors, the public......give them all the incentive to do what ever they want. This is not the first time Vick has been in trouble, but it is the only major one to catch up to him. He probably had agents, friends, attorneys, sponsors, boosters help him out before. But, this time the crime was so serious, nobody wanted to touch it or be associated with him, which is why he got left out in the cold.
I think the better question is: Why don't they listen to the good advice they give? They've got their agents, coaches, team owners, and people that the teams and the NFL hire to try to keep these guys from making bad decisions. With all those people trying to steer them in the right direction, they must really have to fight hard to go the wrong way like they do.
Advice only goes so far. Look at the world today. People do what they want when they want. Many do not consider the consequences for there actions. Or think that nothing bad will ever happen to them. ie get caught or injured. You can talk a mans ear off, about right and wrong, but at the end of the day only your jaw hurts.
Its not that he can't get better advic. its that he will not listen. People like Vick, Michael Jackson, Paris Hilton, and others have so much money they start to believe there own hype, they think the rules do not apply to them.
It is well known in The Falcons circle that Vick does not, nor ever have, hung with his teammates. Sure, they're friends and all but they do NOT hang out.
It's not the fact that people weren't giving him advice it's the fact that he wouldn't listen!!
The fact that he spent so much time outside of the team should have been a red flag to begin with.
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I really like to listen to people and give advice, what career is best?
I thought about being a social worker or perhaps a guidance counselor, however a psychologist seems pretty interesting as well. I don't understand however what that involves exactly. I wanted to be a therapist what is the difference between all of these? Please help, I am on the verge of determiningmy future.I really like to listen to people and give advice, what career is best?
if you really want to help people...please consider a career in teaching....you can make a difference in a lot of peoples livesI really like to listen to people and give advice, what career is best?
Most psychologist have a PhD.D in psychology. They generally work in clinical settings. For clients who need medication, they work closely with psychiatrists or MD's that they trust.
Social workers can be licensed as therapists with a Masters Degree. Most social workers I've worked with are mental health case managers. They work closely with psychiatrists to help people with chronic mental illness mange their daily lives. They may be tasked with taking clients to dental appointments, arrange ';permanent'; housing situations, or help with budgeting.
if you really want to help people...please consider a career in teaching....you can make a difference in a lot of peoples livesI really like to listen to people and give advice, what career is best?
Most psychologist have a PhD.D in psychology. They generally work in clinical settings. For clients who need medication, they work closely with psychiatrists or MD's that they trust.
Social workers can be licensed as therapists with a Masters Degree. Most social workers I've worked with are mental health case managers. They work closely with psychiatrists to help people with chronic mental illness mange their daily lives. They may be tasked with taking clients to dental appointments, arrange ';permanent'; housing situations, or help with budgeting.
I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
I have a 15 year old son. I wanted to know if there were exams he had to get. Like a prostate or something like that. Like the girls have gyno exams but what about for boys.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
Take him to a family practitioner (or general practitioner) for a ';well patient'; exam or physical. The doc will take care of it.
No, he doesn't need a prostate exam, but he will need a hernia exam.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
He is too young for the doctor to carry out such examination on him when he reaches the correct age about 30
Take him to a family practitioner (or general practitioner) for a ';well patient'; exam or physical. The doc will take care of it.
No, he doesn't need a prostate exam, but he will need a hernia exam.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
He is too young for the doctor to carry out such examination on him when he reaches the correct age about 30
How do I get people to use my advice column?
I'm not going to advertise it her because I think that's against the rules, but are there any free ways to advertise it? I want to get it around, and I want to be getting emails from around the nation. How do I do this?How do I get people to use my advice column?
Umm, How do you get an advice column?
Wow the net is all about marketing. Do you have an actual website?
I mean there are dozens of popular venues that bring people to you. You need to take the example of google, and use popular keywords.
Umm, How do you get an advice column?
Wow the net is all about marketing. Do you have an actual website?
I mean there are dozens of popular venues that bring people to you. You need to take the example of google, and use popular keywords.
Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
I'm a student at UT Austin. I have created a professional business organization to launch business projects for the sheer adventure.
However, I'm having trouble finding more people that are driven, creative, and good communicators(different from social skills).
How in the world do I find these people in social networks?
P.S.
I've been in a lot of social networks and I have yet to find someone that isn't completely boring and time wasteful especially in the UT wild party school.Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
1) Go to and join the more adventurous Yahoo Groups.
2) Market to the schools in the more adventurous cities (NY, Chicago, Las Vegas, LA, etc)
3) Your best bet is to find young business owners who are already doing it... These people are learning that ';talk'; is everything and, if they like your ideas they will spread the word and it will become a snowball effect.
4) The SBA might be able to help you.
I applaud what you're doing and wish you well. (25 year business owner) If there's anything I can do to help - let me know.
However, I'm having trouble finding more people that are driven, creative, and good communicators(different from social skills).
How in the world do I find these people in social networks?
P.S.
I've been in a lot of social networks and I have yet to find someone that isn't completely boring and time wasteful especially in the UT wild party school.Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
1) Go to and join the more adventurous Yahoo Groups.
2) Market to the schools in the more adventurous cities (NY, Chicago, Las Vegas, LA, etc)
3) Your best bet is to find young business owners who are already doing it... These people are learning that ';talk'; is everything and, if they like your ideas they will spread the word and it will become a snowball effect.
4) The SBA might be able to help you.
I applaud what you're doing and wish you well. (25 year business owner) If there's anything I can do to help - let me know.
How come real questions like medical or moral or ethical or people needing advice get hardly any answers at ?
all if any, but questions like, Whats your dogs name or What did you have for dinner get like 40 and 50 answers?!?!?! It is so frustrating!!!How come real questions like medical or moral or ethical or people needing advice get hardly any answers at ?
Because no one knows the answer to those sort of questions.
Because no one knows the answer to those sort of questions.
Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
Do you get upset if you find out later that the source of the advice you had followed turned out to have never been a parent?Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
I will listen to parenting advice from anyone if it's about general philosophy and backed up by a pediatrician or behavioralist or the supernanny. However, I admit, if I know someone is not a parent, I would discredit it a little bit. Mostly because prior to being a parent, I had all these grand ideas on how I would parent my child once I had him - - then once he's here, reality sets in and I do it much different. So those 'real world tips' - not that they're any better coming from a parent - but I have to ask myself - ';How do they know?';. It's more a problem when those who do not have kids are critical about what those who do have kids are doing. Tough to criticize when you have not been there. If I took advice from someone and later found otu they didn't have kids and the advice helped....I woulnd't be mad at all - I'd just think this person had really, really good instincts about kids. Hope it doesn't sound snarky....just being honest about an honest question you're asking.Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
depends on if the advice worked or not. but normally i take all the advice i can get no matter who it came from. If it works, great!! if not, then seek someone with better advice next time! LOL
Not if it worked. And if it didn't work, now I'd know why.
Just to bring something up, I'm not a parent and I'm on the Parenting questions a lot. I don't answer every question but I may respond to a few that catch my interest or if I feel that I can provide adequate advice. I do however have my Early Childhood Education diploma and I'm planning on having children in the future and I do have experience of caring for children in both daycare centres and homes.
I don't think people without kids should tell people with kids what to do. It's different when you actually have children and everyone thinks they're an expert. Besides, all kids and parents are different so when I get advice from anyone, parent or not, I think about whether or not I think it would work for me and if it doesn't I don't do it. But I'm definitely reluctant to listen to someone who's never been in my situation before.
no sometimes it takes a creative outside opinion to se a solution to a problem. especailly if maybe that person had childcare or meidcal experience, or a psych degree etc.... sometimes being a parent doens't mean you have good advice for another parent either! =)
It all depends on what the advice was...everyone is entitled to answer and if theyv answered they myst know at least what ther talking about...with this u either take the advice or leave it...it doesnt upset me, i think its nice to know ppl want to try and help.
If the advice is logical, and if it is something that is applicable to the situation, I would say it doesn't really matter what the source was. I guess the point being, if you don't want advice, don't ask.
No not at all remember that everyone was a child at some point and we all learn from our parents just because someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they don't know what their talking about. I learned alot from a good friend of mine when my son was a baby because she had younger sister that she helped out with alot. She has her own boys now that are both under the age of ten and she calls me to get advise about them and my son is 17 . I feel you can learn from everyone.
it depends, as with any advice you have to pick it apart, see if it seems reasonable, maybe research it a bit, you dont have to have a kid to have been around them and know how they work, at the same time, some parents are just shitty and i woudnt take their advice for anything....
i don't ignore advice, i tend to filter what i feel will work for my kids however, i do ignore their criticizing
I'm not a parent just yet. However, I've had many years experience working with children and infants so if it's a situation I've ran into then I will give my advice/opinion on it. Obviously I do not know EVERYTHING there is to know about parenting and I will not answer if that is the case.cream blush
I will listen to parenting advice from anyone if it's about general philosophy and backed up by a pediatrician or behavioralist or the supernanny. However, I admit, if I know someone is not a parent, I would discredit it a little bit. Mostly because prior to being a parent, I had all these grand ideas on how I would parent my child once I had him - - then once he's here, reality sets in and I do it much different. So those 'real world tips' - not that they're any better coming from a parent - but I have to ask myself - ';How do they know?';. It's more a problem when those who do not have kids are critical about what those who do have kids are doing. Tough to criticize when you have not been there. If I took advice from someone and later found otu they didn't have kids and the advice helped....I woulnd't be mad at all - I'd just think this person had really, really good instincts about kids. Hope it doesn't sound snarky....just being honest about an honest question you're asking.Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
depends on if the advice worked or not. but normally i take all the advice i can get no matter who it came from. If it works, great!! if not, then seek someone with better advice next time! LOL
Not if it worked. And if it didn't work, now I'd know why.
Just to bring something up, I'm not a parent and I'm on the Parenting questions a lot. I don't answer every question but I may respond to a few that catch my interest or if I feel that I can provide adequate advice. I do however have my Early Childhood Education diploma and I'm planning on having children in the future and I do have experience of caring for children in both daycare centres and homes.
I don't think people without kids should tell people with kids what to do. It's different when you actually have children and everyone thinks they're an expert. Besides, all kids and parents are different so when I get advice from anyone, parent or not, I think about whether or not I think it would work for me and if it doesn't I don't do it. But I'm definitely reluctant to listen to someone who's never been in my situation before.
no sometimes it takes a creative outside opinion to se a solution to a problem. especailly if maybe that person had childcare or meidcal experience, or a psych degree etc.... sometimes being a parent doens't mean you have good advice for another parent either! =)
It all depends on what the advice was...everyone is entitled to answer and if theyv answered they myst know at least what ther talking about...with this u either take the advice or leave it...it doesnt upset me, i think its nice to know ppl want to try and help.
If the advice is logical, and if it is something that is applicable to the situation, I would say it doesn't really matter what the source was. I guess the point being, if you don't want advice, don't ask.
No not at all remember that everyone was a child at some point and we all learn from our parents just because someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they don't know what their talking about. I learned alot from a good friend of mine when my son was a baby because she had younger sister that she helped out with alot. She has her own boys now that are both under the age of ten and she calls me to get advise about them and my son is 17 . I feel you can learn from everyone.
it depends, as with any advice you have to pick it apart, see if it seems reasonable, maybe research it a bit, you dont have to have a kid to have been around them and know how they work, at the same time, some parents are just shitty and i woudnt take their advice for anything....
i don't ignore advice, i tend to filter what i feel will work for my kids however, i do ignore their criticizing
I'm not a parent just yet. However, I've had many years experience working with children and infants so if it's a situation I've ran into then I will give my advice/opinion on it. Obviously I do not know EVERYTHING there is to know about parenting and I will not answer if that is the case.
Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
why is it when someone is physically abused then they are told to run from that person?
why is it when someone is sexually abused then they are told to run from that person and press charges?
but when it comes to emotional abuse then everyone always says..';just live with it.. they are only yelling at you,.. its not like they are hitting you or anything..'; like if emotional abuse doesn't have the same effect as physical or sexual abuse does?
not say that physical abuse or sexual abuse isn't very traumatic because i know it is but it just seems to me that emotional abuse doesn't really get light like the other two..Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
I think that emotional abuse is just as dangerous as sexual and physical abuse.
if you are being abused emotionally (which is different from just having an arguement) then chances of emotional abuse developing into physical abuse is very likely.
No one should put up with abuse of any kind, whether its words or fists. Anyone who needs to hurt another to feel better about themselves are bad bad people. Leave them to stew in their negativity and go be happy without them.
Whoever says ';just deal with it, its only yelling...'; is a doorknob. Never listen to a doorknob.Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
It goes back to the Victorian response to the advent of modern psychology. If people were to acknoledge it, it is like admitting that they themselves are not perfect - indeed influenced by frued's ideas. Mybe they do like women similar to their mother, maybe they did envy their fathers penis. - Its heavy stuff even today.
Emotional abuse is similar, those people who denounce it are either so zen as to be able to rise above the meanings that may be attached to what people may say to harm them. Or they are somewhere in the spectrum of denial that they two can be hurt by the conitations of peoples language.
If you look at the patterns, emotional abuse is usually at the root of all physical and sexual abuse. It is all tranference of pain. And this is very confronting to most people. Most people in some way treat others like they were, at least at some stage treated themselves....Hmm makes you think about your motives dson't it.
Emotional abuse is definitely a form of abuse that can affect ones life to the core. It's kind of breaking a person's being. Many of these individuals need professional help to overcome their issues of the past. The ones that don't are still trying to figure things out on their own or perhaps take advice from someone they trust. Anyway, whether you seek professional help or not, you don't forget. You are left with scars. You can truly move on, when you know that it's been dealt with and you have overcome these obstacles in your life.
You must let go of for your own sake.
I think you're right. Emotional abuse can be just as bad, even in some situations maybe worse. And it should get more attention, and the victims more help and recognition.
why is it when someone is sexually abused then they are told to run from that person and press charges?
but when it comes to emotional abuse then everyone always says..';just live with it.. they are only yelling at you,.. its not like they are hitting you or anything..'; like if emotional abuse doesn't have the same effect as physical or sexual abuse does?
not say that physical abuse or sexual abuse isn't very traumatic because i know it is but it just seems to me that emotional abuse doesn't really get light like the other two..Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
I think that emotional abuse is just as dangerous as sexual and physical abuse.
if you are being abused emotionally (which is different from just having an arguement) then chances of emotional abuse developing into physical abuse is very likely.
No one should put up with abuse of any kind, whether its words or fists. Anyone who needs to hurt another to feel better about themselves are bad bad people. Leave them to stew in their negativity and go be happy without them.
Whoever says ';just deal with it, its only yelling...'; is a doorknob. Never listen to a doorknob.Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
It goes back to the Victorian response to the advent of modern psychology. If people were to acknoledge it, it is like admitting that they themselves are not perfect - indeed influenced by frued's ideas. Mybe they do like women similar to their mother, maybe they did envy their fathers penis. - Its heavy stuff even today.
Emotional abuse is similar, those people who denounce it are either so zen as to be able to rise above the meanings that may be attached to what people may say to harm them. Or they are somewhere in the spectrum of denial that they two can be hurt by the conitations of peoples language.
If you look at the patterns, emotional abuse is usually at the root of all physical and sexual abuse. It is all tranference of pain. And this is very confronting to most people. Most people in some way treat others like they were, at least at some stage treated themselves....Hmm makes you think about your motives dson't it.
Emotional abuse is definitely a form of abuse that can affect ones life to the core. It's kind of breaking a person's being. Many of these individuals need professional help to overcome their issues of the past. The ones that don't are still trying to figure things out on their own or perhaps take advice from someone they trust. Anyway, whether you seek professional help or not, you don't forget. You are left with scars. You can truly move on, when you know that it's been dealt with and you have overcome these obstacles in your life.
You must let go of for your own sake.
I think you're right. Emotional abuse can be just as bad, even in some situations maybe worse. And it should get more attention, and the victims more help and recognition.
Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
My friend does not want to me to get into drugs yet she still does drugs now. Wtf?Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
She's just looking out for you.
Hopefully it is because she knows that she has made a few bad choices, and she doesn't want you to end up in her situation.
Heed her advice.
Please, from a formal drug addict, and a successfully rehabilitated addict, please, stay away from drugs.Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
yep , you should listen to her. Its not like its easy to quit once you start. Its like a smoker telling you not to smoke.
besides your better off not doing them. If you wanted to marry a rich doctor or decent person that comes from a respectable family, you better think twice because any respectable family will not except a druggie into their family.
Because she know's she screwed up bad and she does not want you to follow dow nthe same path she see's potential in you and does not want you to throw it away.Why don't you help her and get help
It's the very definition of ';Hypocrite';....
Though, maybe in your case your friend is just trying to steer you away from a life of misery (drugs).
Would she be a better friend to you if she gave you drugs? Somehow, I think not.....
She knows she made a mistake and is now trapped, and is trying to save you from going through the same pain she has gone through. It is possible to know what the right choice is, even if you can't act on it.
I don't know why people do that. People are always doing the same to me and not following their own advice. I really hate that.
Hmmm. Lots of people do that. Who knows? Maybe because it's easy to give out advice and not reflect upon your own problems? Just rambling here.
She knows what drugs can do and cares about you so she doesn't want you to get into a bad lifestyle.
Like black people? They say dont be racist and dont generalize but they do the same against whites.
Maybe your friend is hooked, and can't just quit. She doesn't want that to happen to you.
She knows you're better than her.
She's just looking out for you.
Hopefully it is because she knows that she has made a few bad choices, and she doesn't want you to end up in her situation.
Heed her advice.
Please, from a formal drug addict, and a successfully rehabilitated addict, please, stay away from drugs.Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
yep , you should listen to her. Its not like its easy to quit once you start. Its like a smoker telling you not to smoke.
besides your better off not doing them. If you wanted to marry a rich doctor or decent person that comes from a respectable family, you better think twice because any respectable family will not except a druggie into their family.
Because she know's she screwed up bad and she does not want you to follow dow nthe same path she see's potential in you and does not want you to throw it away.Why don't you help her and get help
It's the very definition of ';Hypocrite';....
Though, maybe in your case your friend is just trying to steer you away from a life of misery (drugs).
Would she be a better friend to you if she gave you drugs? Somehow, I think not.....
She knows she made a mistake and is now trapped, and is trying to save you from going through the same pain she has gone through. It is possible to know what the right choice is, even if you can't act on it.
I don't know why people do that. People are always doing the same to me and not following their own advice. I really hate that.
Hmmm. Lots of people do that. Who knows? Maybe because it's easy to give out advice and not reflect upon your own problems? Just rambling here.
She knows what drugs can do and cares about you so she doesn't want you to get into a bad lifestyle.
Like black people? They say dont be racist and dont generalize but they do the same against whites.
Maybe your friend is hooked, and can't just quit. She doesn't want that to happen to you.
She knows you're better than her.
How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
Just asking because I had given a reasonable answer, w/ backup, but there were biosed people that down thumbed it. The poor person asking the question may end up developing a biosed point of view.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
All you can do is hope to get enough answers that you can form an oppinion and be openminded to what others think. I can't stand when someone does not read your whole question and then gives you a stupid answer that doesn't even go along with what you asked.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
I've received good and bad.As far as thumbs up and down,you can't put a whole lot in to that,it's just peeps opinion.All a part of what makes yahoo so dam addictive.
there are people that love to give stupid advice and will down play or put down any other kind of advice. don't want to admit they are wrong!
I see a lot of really awful answers here. The sad part is, I think only a small fraction of those are stupid on purpose. Most people just don't really know what they are talking about. It's different when you are asking for people's opinions- that's very subjective. But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.
I'd not rate the advice terrible but my issues are:
1) People must weigh the answers and maybe use them for further research.
2) Some are not clear on what they asking.
3) Flippant questions, well you know the saying, ';Ask a stupid question get a stupid....';
';But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.';
This is quoted from the answer of holocaust denier/racist venin_noir. I rather hope she is including herself in the category of ';so wrong';, but I'm probably being naive. Seriously, check out some of her answers relating to Jews, Blacks, Naziism etc. She is spewing a lot of vile hatred on Yahoo Answers, and should be challenged.
every time i ask a question as to where to find something, i always get ';check e-bay'; as an answer. i wouldn't be asking if it was on ebay.
Very true it is possible for the asker to become biased based on answers being thumbed up or down. The only thing is the asker needs to not look for thumb up or down answers, but what suits their purpose the best. I know what you mean about getting terrible advice though, it seems like sometimes it's rare to get a good answer.
why do u think u got the best answer???it is a matter of difference ,and if u really did ,dont worry he will stil be able to read your answer ,it was just minimised unless your answer was flaged,
All you can do is hope to get enough answers that you can form an oppinion and be openminded to what others think. I can't stand when someone does not read your whole question and then gives you a stupid answer that doesn't even go along with what you asked.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
I've received good and bad.As far as thumbs up and down,you can't put a whole lot in to that,it's just peeps opinion.All a part of what makes yahoo so dam addictive.
there are people that love to give stupid advice and will down play or put down any other kind of advice. don't want to admit they are wrong!
I see a lot of really awful answers here. The sad part is, I think only a small fraction of those are stupid on purpose. Most people just don't really know what they are talking about. It's different when you are asking for people's opinions- that's very subjective. But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.
I'd not rate the advice terrible but my issues are:
1) People must weigh the answers and maybe use them for further research.
2) Some are not clear on what they asking.
3) Flippant questions, well you know the saying, ';Ask a stupid question get a stupid....';
';But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.';
This is quoted from the answer of holocaust denier/racist venin_noir. I rather hope she is including herself in the category of ';so wrong';, but I'm probably being naive. Seriously, check out some of her answers relating to Jews, Blacks, Naziism etc. She is spewing a lot of vile hatred on Yahoo Answers, and should be challenged.
every time i ask a question as to where to find something, i always get ';check e-bay'; as an answer. i wouldn't be asking if it was on ebay.
Very true it is possible for the asker to become biased based on answers being thumbed up or down. The only thing is the asker needs to not look for thumb up or down answers, but what suits their purpose the best. I know what you mean about getting terrible advice though, it seems like sometimes it's rare to get a good answer.
why do u think u got the best answer???it is a matter of difference ,and if u really did ,dont worry he will stil be able to read your answer ,it was just minimised unless your answer was flaged,
Any advice for me from people who have had a dying loved one in hospice at their house?
My grandmother came up to live with me and my family in June. Its now November and her health has declined so rapidly in the last couple weeks and she is now in a hospice program. Anyone who has had a dying loved one at their house would know how hard this is. If you have any advice, inspirational words/quotes it would be much appreciated by my family and I. Thank you.Any advice for me from people who have had a dying loved one in hospice at their house?
My father and husband both died at home. Surround yourself with supportive people. I had family around and friends kept in contact. We cried, hugged each other and just tried to take it moment by moment. It was difficult, but I was very glad that hospice was there. The social worker was very helpful. They also have chaplains. I was glad that each of them could be at home. They wanted it and so did we. It will take months to feel halfway decent. Be easy on yourself, and, if you need more support later, consider going to a grief support group. It helped me.Any advice for me from people who have had a dying loved one in hospice at their house?
To be frank I have experienced 6 death in my family. Four
elderly and two in early forties. Believe me i was shattered.
Ofcourse these deaths occured in span of 7 years. All
consolations and quotes did not work with me. I spent
3 years crying only. I kept praying and meditating but tears
flowed freely. While i know everything is karmic and there
is nothing one can do about it but try to convince somebody
whose loved one has died and he or she with keep bawling.
Only thing which helped me is TIME which is the greatest
healer. Prayer and meditation will help a little but the main
thing to do is keep yourself BUSY and OCCUPIED and then
TIME will do the rest. Good luck and may god give you
enought mental strength to tide over your problem.
Death is every bit as natural as birth. There is a beauty and comfort to it... You know the quote, ';Nothing is certain but death and taxes?';
Anyway, two movies for you to watch. Oddly, both with Robin Williams as the star... Watch, ';What Dreams May Come,'; and ';Patch Adams.'; You will cry and cry and cry like a baby, but the humor makes it bearable. One of the biggest helps to me watching my virile and large grandfather wither away for years before he finally passed was to indulge myself in private so I could deal with my emotions in a safe and productive way. It helped me be strong, supportive and unselfish. One of the things that often happens when a loved one is going to die is that niggling thought of, ';What about me?'; What's going to happen to YOU. How do YOU feel. What can YOU do to help. These feelings are natural, but they get in the way of what is important, which is making that persons last days on this earth happy and stress free. You want to show them how strong you are. You want them to know that you will be just fine when they pass on. It is comforting to the dying to know that the people they love are settled (even if you have to lie and fake it so much that you deserve an Emmy!).
I lost my 81 yr old dad a 1 1/2 yrs ago. It broke my heart to see him leave. I had trouble coping with the loss and I just kept trying to remember the good times.
I remembered the scripture ';yeah though I walk thru the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for though art with me';
Just remember, She is going to be safe because she is sheltered in the arms of God. She will soon have no more pain, no more suffering and she will be in a better place.
you are in a very tough situation right now. remember that being at home means alot to your grandmother. she has her whole family surrounding her at this time and can be very supportive to her. it can't be easy for you, but as long as your grandmothers pain is controlled, her needs are being met , i'm sure she is where she wants to be. you can also speak with the hospice clergy or the social worker for advice.
god bless you all...
The only thing I'd like to tell you is First I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this. Hospice is different for everyone. I had a good experience. Just remember to make sure your grandpa is comfortable and make sure you are ready to let him go when its time. Talk to him...talk about what you remember. listen to his stories(ask about when he was youger or when you parents were) and than hold on to those memories. Lossing a loved one is never easy.
The Hospice nurse is there if you need to talk, She can help you with alot of things just ask.
Blessing to you and yours.
Sorry to hear of your situation. My mum was diagnosed in May with kidney cancer, when found it had already spread to her liver and lung. It was very aggressive she pasted away sept 7 aged 60. I quit my job, well basically my life to care for mum when she was sick. We had palliative care (hospice care) come in daily towards the end to help but it was basically left to the family to care for her. Which i wouldnt have had any other way. It was EXTREMELY hard (esp. emotionally) because we watched her fade away. But Mum got her last wish and that was to be at home when she past. I heve lots more info, contact me if you need to
My father and husband both died at home. Surround yourself with supportive people. I had family around and friends kept in contact. We cried, hugged each other and just tried to take it moment by moment. It was difficult, but I was very glad that hospice was there. The social worker was very helpful. They also have chaplains. I was glad that each of them could be at home. They wanted it and so did we. It will take months to feel halfway decent. Be easy on yourself, and, if you need more support later, consider going to a grief support group. It helped me.Any advice for me from people who have had a dying loved one in hospice at their house?
To be frank I have experienced 6 death in my family. Four
elderly and two in early forties. Believe me i was shattered.
Ofcourse these deaths occured in span of 7 years. All
consolations and quotes did not work with me. I spent
3 years crying only. I kept praying and meditating but tears
flowed freely. While i know everything is karmic and there
is nothing one can do about it but try to convince somebody
whose loved one has died and he or she with keep bawling.
Only thing which helped me is TIME which is the greatest
healer. Prayer and meditation will help a little but the main
thing to do is keep yourself BUSY and OCCUPIED and then
TIME will do the rest. Good luck and may god give you
enought mental strength to tide over your problem.
Death is every bit as natural as birth. There is a beauty and comfort to it... You know the quote, ';Nothing is certain but death and taxes?';
Anyway, two movies for you to watch. Oddly, both with Robin Williams as the star... Watch, ';What Dreams May Come,'; and ';Patch Adams.'; You will cry and cry and cry like a baby, but the humor makes it bearable. One of the biggest helps to me watching my virile and large grandfather wither away for years before he finally passed was to indulge myself in private so I could deal with my emotions in a safe and productive way. It helped me be strong, supportive and unselfish. One of the things that often happens when a loved one is going to die is that niggling thought of, ';What about me?'; What's going to happen to YOU. How do YOU feel. What can YOU do to help. These feelings are natural, but they get in the way of what is important, which is making that persons last days on this earth happy and stress free. You want to show them how strong you are. You want them to know that you will be just fine when they pass on. It is comforting to the dying to know that the people they love are settled (even if you have to lie and fake it so much that you deserve an Emmy!).
I lost my 81 yr old dad a 1 1/2 yrs ago. It broke my heart to see him leave. I had trouble coping with the loss and I just kept trying to remember the good times.
I remembered the scripture ';yeah though I walk thru the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for though art with me';
Just remember, She is going to be safe because she is sheltered in the arms of God. She will soon have no more pain, no more suffering and she will be in a better place.
you are in a very tough situation right now. remember that being at home means alot to your grandmother. she has her whole family surrounding her at this time and can be very supportive to her. it can't be easy for you, but as long as your grandmothers pain is controlled, her needs are being met , i'm sure she is where she wants to be. you can also speak with the hospice clergy or the social worker for advice.
god bless you all...
The only thing I'd like to tell you is First I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this. Hospice is different for everyone. I had a good experience. Just remember to make sure your grandpa is comfortable and make sure you are ready to let him go when its time. Talk to him...talk about what you remember. listen to his stories(ask about when he was youger or when you parents were) and than hold on to those memories. Lossing a loved one is never easy.
The Hospice nurse is there if you need to talk, She can help you with alot of things just ask.
Blessing to you and yours.
Sorry to hear of your situation. My mum was diagnosed in May with kidney cancer, when found it had already spread to her liver and lung. It was very aggressive she pasted away sept 7 aged 60. I quit my job, well basically my life to care for mum when she was sick. We had palliative care (hospice care) come in daily towards the end to help but it was basically left to the family to care for her. Which i wouldnt have had any other way. It was EXTREMELY hard (esp. emotionally) because we watched her fade away. But Mum got her last wish and that was to be at home when she past. I heve lots more info, contact me if you need to
Why do people ask for advice when they just want reassurance?
Nothing else to say.Why do people ask for advice when they just want reassurance?
You answered your own question! They don't want advice....they want reassurance!
You answered your own question! They don't want advice....they want reassurance!
Do you want to give advice to people before they get a pet?
I would like to advize people to not get pets like they are toys. Owning and taking care of an animal is a responsibility. If you feel the same please add to this. I hate to see people get pets then decide they don't want them because their pet became a monster from lack of training or was inconvienient to their lifestyle. I know you are not supposed to use this for a forum but I would like to get the word out. If this is reported as abuse, I am sorry if I offended. My neighbores adopted a dog several weeks ago and he has just dissappeared. They said he barked and dug to much. I just hope they took him back to where they got him and didn't just dump him somewhere.
My Dad dumped my dog when I was a kid so I guess I am sensitive about the subject. Please learn to be a responsible pet owner before you get a pet. And also consider going to the pound to adopt a pet. some of them require special care but if you are a special, caring person, you may save an animals life.Do you want to give advice to people before they get a pet?
wow so it seems you feel very strongly about pets and how they should be treated. if so then there's nothing we can tell you because you said it all and very nicely i might add.Do you want to give advice to people before they get a pet?
Yeah I agree. Getting a pet is a big responsibility. You should always learn as much info as possible before buying any animal.
When someone talks about getting a pet I'll bring up the cost of being a pet owner and all the responsibilities that go with it. If that person still is interested then encourage them to go to a shelter in three months. That gives them time to think about it. You never want to rush into something like this. It's a lot of work but can be a wonderful part of your life.
No one should think of getting any kind of pet unless you have fully thought it through. If it's a dog or cat straight away it should be neutered, it is utter nonsense when people say that their dog or cat should have at least one litter. Also can you afford the vet bills, because as soon as your pet is 5months old it starts with injections %26amp; then anual boosters. Can you afford to take it to the vet if it's injured or ill, asking question about such things in places like this only gives you either stupid answers or they tell you to take it to the vet any way, if you think at any time your pet has a problem, TAKE IT TO THE VET. Can you afford the time to give your pet the attention it needs, can you give it the love it need %26amp; finally if you know nothing about the pet you want, read about it first, get as much information as you possibly can, there is no excuse claiming ignorance when things go wrong. Al pets, (if they are cared for properly.) will cost you a lot of time %26amp; money, as long as you are ready for all of this you should have years of very happy companionship with your pet.
95% of all people have no clue what owning a pet is all about, they own you and you are supposed to look out for them, I see tons of people do the lamest things ever to there pets, like keep them chained up in the back yard, leave them at dog day care every day, etc.. if u can't spend a ton of time with your dog, then don't bother getting one, that animal should be like your family and spend time indoors/out, and go on trips with you, and you should really interact with them almost like u would with a kid.. dogs are much smarter than we give them credit for being... I totaly agree with you and hope people grow up and take responsiblity for what they do !!!
If you don't have time to devote to an animal, you don't have the money for vet bills, you don't want to clean up the mess, you don't want to put up with the noise, then do not get one!
Most dogs end up in humane societies because of behavior problems, and the reason they have behavior problems is because their owner(s) didn't train them. When a new pup or dog is introduced into your household you should do two things: 1. Make a vet appointment. 2. Make an obedience training appointment.
make sure to potty train them or they will stain your carpet
Make sure you research the breed you want to get. Rescue a homeless pet before going to a breeder. Check out breeders. If they are breeding more than 2 different breeds and do not show their dogs...beware! Avoid puppy mills and petstores!
Read up on how much groomer the breed you want to get requires. I can't tell you how many dogs come in to me all matted because their owners didnt know how often their dog needed a hair cut or how often it needed combed out! 4-6 weeks on breeds such as Poodles, ShihTzus, Malteses etc.
Make sure you have enough money for food, vet bills, grooming etc. Start a bank account for your pet...it may need it one day.cream blush
My Dad dumped my dog when I was a kid so I guess I am sensitive about the subject. Please learn to be a responsible pet owner before you get a pet. And also consider going to the pound to adopt a pet. some of them require special care but if you are a special, caring person, you may save an animals life.Do you want to give advice to people before they get a pet?
wow so it seems you feel very strongly about pets and how they should be treated. if so then there's nothing we can tell you because you said it all and very nicely i might add.Do you want to give advice to people before they get a pet?
Yeah I agree. Getting a pet is a big responsibility. You should always learn as much info as possible before buying any animal.
When someone talks about getting a pet I'll bring up the cost of being a pet owner and all the responsibilities that go with it. If that person still is interested then encourage them to go to a shelter in three months. That gives them time to think about it. You never want to rush into something like this. It's a lot of work but can be a wonderful part of your life.
No one should think of getting any kind of pet unless you have fully thought it through. If it's a dog or cat straight away it should be neutered, it is utter nonsense when people say that their dog or cat should have at least one litter. Also can you afford the vet bills, because as soon as your pet is 5months old it starts with injections %26amp; then anual boosters. Can you afford to take it to the vet if it's injured or ill, asking question about such things in places like this only gives you either stupid answers or they tell you to take it to the vet any way, if you think at any time your pet has a problem, TAKE IT TO THE VET. Can you afford the time to give your pet the attention it needs, can you give it the love it need %26amp; finally if you know nothing about the pet you want, read about it first, get as much information as you possibly can, there is no excuse claiming ignorance when things go wrong. Al pets, (if they are cared for properly.) will cost you a lot of time %26amp; money, as long as you are ready for all of this you should have years of very happy companionship with your pet.
95% of all people have no clue what owning a pet is all about, they own you and you are supposed to look out for them, I see tons of people do the lamest things ever to there pets, like keep them chained up in the back yard, leave them at dog day care every day, etc.. if u can't spend a ton of time with your dog, then don't bother getting one, that animal should be like your family and spend time indoors/out, and go on trips with you, and you should really interact with them almost like u would with a kid.. dogs are much smarter than we give them credit for being... I totaly agree with you and hope people grow up and take responsiblity for what they do !!!
If you don't have time to devote to an animal, you don't have the money for vet bills, you don't want to clean up the mess, you don't want to put up with the noise, then do not get one!
Most dogs end up in humane societies because of behavior problems, and the reason they have behavior problems is because their owner(s) didn't train them. When a new pup or dog is introduced into your household you should do two things: 1. Make a vet appointment. 2. Make an obedience training appointment.
make sure to potty train them or they will stain your carpet
Make sure you research the breed you want to get. Rescue a homeless pet before going to a breeder. Check out breeders. If they are breeding more than 2 different breeds and do not show their dogs...beware! Avoid puppy mills and petstores!
Read up on how much groomer the breed you want to get requires. I can't tell you how many dogs come in to me all matted because their owners didnt know how often their dog needed a hair cut or how often it needed combed out! 4-6 weeks on breeds such as Poodles, ShihTzus, Malteses etc.
Make sure you have enough money for food, vet bills, grooming etc. Start a bank account for your pet...it may need it one day.
Did you actually take the advice of people on the baby names board?
When you asked your question, did you take the advice of the opinions that you got? Do you think other people take the advice? I'm just curious, because it seems like so many people want honest answers then just give thumb-downs to people who don't like their names.Did you actually take the advice of people on the baby names board?
Yes. My husband and I had the name Kiva selected for a girl because we lived in SW Colorado for awhile and have Native American heritage and love Native American culture. Part of the cliff dwellings there are called kivas and we thought it would make a lovely name. Liz on this site is respectful of Native American culture (naming your child Dakota or Cheyenne or any other tribal name is offensive by the way - thanks again Liz for the info) and she suggested I check with the tribes out there to make sure the name we had chosen was not offensive. Another member gave me a link to the Hopi nation and I used it to contact the Cultural Preservation office. A woman there explained ceremonies take place in the kivas, so the name Kiva would not be appreciated and would be offensive. So, one month before my due date we decided to find a new name in case our baby was a girl - it was! Now Genevieve (aka Evie) is here, who would have been Kiva if not for this site.
Genevieve was our second favorite name before using this site. Our last name begins with a soft G and we like the alliteration.
I know some of the people have taken the advice and some haven't. Either way, I do my best to answer the question they asked.
I agree, it is stupid to ask ';What do you think of this name?'; then give thumbs down when people don't like it. Only ask questions here you want honest answers to. And answerers, only answer the question asked. It ticks me off when I ask a question like ';Which middle name flows better, Pierce Michael or Pierce Samuel?'; and people answer ';Those names suck, use Matteo Xavier instead!'; Not helpful at all...
Did you actually take the advice of people on the baby names board?
I think one can easily distinguish between the honest answers and the point hungry babble...
I appreciate the fact we can get unbiased opinions at the drop of a hat, it's nice to be able to see how a particular name would do in a real world setting.
I too often see answerers who just copy and paste their list of top names, those get thumbs down from me simply because they make it quite obvious that they didn't even consider the constraints of my inquiry.
All in all, I take everyone of the answers to my questions with a grain of salt, to be frank, I can only be the judge of an answerers honesty...
I appreciate your question, and do hope you appreciated my honest point of view.
I think people who want opinions on already chosen names have made up their mind and just want a pat on the back and people to say ';Nice choice!'; While people who give lists will listen to advice but choose whatever they like in the end. I think the only ones who really take advice are the ones who ask for middle name advice. No list, just a first and a ';go crazy.'; Because they are a lot more lenient.
I agree with you but some of the answers people give are really cruel.
I have never in my life said some of the things that people say to others on here.
It's like people get on here just to take out their anger.
I have seen some horrendous names on here and thought to myself
wow that sounds like a strippers name
or what the crap are they thinking!
But when people give a list of names and ask you to pick which ones you prefer and you give them 45 completely different names, I think they deserve the thumbs down.
Some mothers ask questions about middle names and they get answers with the name they chose NOT even listed in the answer!!!!
So, I agree with you on the thumbs down.
If you don't want the truth , dont ask for it.
But- I think some of the people who answer are extremely harsh and dont give very good answers.
I wish you the best!
xoxo
Meg
by the way-
you are one of those people who give ridiculous answers.
Delaney is not a ghetto name.
How is Shaniqua like Delaney?
Delaney is an Irish name that has been around for years
Your answers are horrendous.
From now on keep your answers off my questions.
I have blocked you.
Horrid woman.
I think some do and some do not
I think the thumbs down comes from other who answer the questions
Not the person that wrote the questions
If I post a question in any area, if I have a lot of answer, I do put thumbs down for those I know will not get best answer, so I have less to look at when I decided
People could do that too
Actually, yes.
I was writing a story and I couldn't figure out a middle name for my character so I used one someone on here suggested to me.
But sometimes you just wanna hear what you wanna hear
I took advice! :-) I wouldn't give thumbs down. If they are that set in names, they should ask for the people to vote on names they already have picked out then.
People only want confirmation to which they believe is already correct, despite asking the question.
I'm completely with you on this one!! Couldn't be more true. Why ask %26amp; then give thumbs down? That's the mystery question of the day. Star for you!
There was no such thing as Y! when my kids were born. My husband and I decided in privacy, and then kept it secret until a couple of days before the birth.
TX Mom
maybe not sure
name your kid vinny if its a girl
Yes. My husband and I had the name Kiva selected for a girl because we lived in SW Colorado for awhile and have Native American heritage and love Native American culture. Part of the cliff dwellings there are called kivas and we thought it would make a lovely name. Liz on this site is respectful of Native American culture (naming your child Dakota or Cheyenne or any other tribal name is offensive by the way - thanks again Liz for the info) and she suggested I check with the tribes out there to make sure the name we had chosen was not offensive. Another member gave me a link to the Hopi nation and I used it to contact the Cultural Preservation office. A woman there explained ceremonies take place in the kivas, so the name Kiva would not be appreciated and would be offensive. So, one month before my due date we decided to find a new name in case our baby was a girl - it was! Now Genevieve (aka Evie) is here, who would have been Kiva if not for this site.
Genevieve was our second favorite name before using this site. Our last name begins with a soft G and we like the alliteration.
I know some of the people have taken the advice and some haven't. Either way, I do my best to answer the question they asked.
I agree, it is stupid to ask ';What do you think of this name?'; then give thumbs down when people don't like it. Only ask questions here you want honest answers to. And answerers, only answer the question asked. It ticks me off when I ask a question like ';Which middle name flows better, Pierce Michael or Pierce Samuel?'; and people answer ';Those names suck, use Matteo Xavier instead!'; Not helpful at all...
Did you actually take the advice of people on the baby names board?
I think one can easily distinguish between the honest answers and the point hungry babble...
I appreciate the fact we can get unbiased opinions at the drop of a hat, it's nice to be able to see how a particular name would do in a real world setting.
I too often see answerers who just copy and paste their list of top names, those get thumbs down from me simply because they make it quite obvious that they didn't even consider the constraints of my inquiry.
All in all, I take everyone of the answers to my questions with a grain of salt, to be frank, I can only be the judge of an answerers honesty...
I appreciate your question, and do hope you appreciated my honest point of view.
I think people who want opinions on already chosen names have made up their mind and just want a pat on the back and people to say ';Nice choice!'; While people who give lists will listen to advice but choose whatever they like in the end. I think the only ones who really take advice are the ones who ask for middle name advice. No list, just a first and a ';go crazy.'; Because they are a lot more lenient.
I agree with you but some of the answers people give are really cruel.
I have never in my life said some of the things that people say to others on here.
It's like people get on here just to take out their anger.
I have seen some horrendous names on here and thought to myself
wow that sounds like a strippers name
or what the crap are they thinking!
But when people give a list of names and ask you to pick which ones you prefer and you give them 45 completely different names, I think they deserve the thumbs down.
Some mothers ask questions about middle names and they get answers with the name they chose NOT even listed in the answer!!!!
So, I agree with you on the thumbs down.
If you don't want the truth , dont ask for it.
But- I think some of the people who answer are extremely harsh and dont give very good answers.
I wish you the best!
xoxo
Meg
by the way-
you are one of those people who give ridiculous answers.
Delaney is not a ghetto name.
How is Shaniqua like Delaney?
Delaney is an Irish name that has been around for years
Your answers are horrendous.
From now on keep your answers off my questions.
I have blocked you.
Horrid woman.
I think some do and some do not
I think the thumbs down comes from other who answer the questions
Not the person that wrote the questions
If I post a question in any area, if I have a lot of answer, I do put thumbs down for those I know will not get best answer, so I have less to look at when I decided
People could do that too
Actually, yes.
I was writing a story and I couldn't figure out a middle name for my character so I used one someone on here suggested to me.
But sometimes you just wanna hear what you wanna hear
I took advice! :-) I wouldn't give thumbs down. If they are that set in names, they should ask for the people to vote on names they already have picked out then.
People only want confirmation to which they believe is already correct, despite asking the question.
I'm completely with you on this one!! Couldn't be more true. Why ask %26amp; then give thumbs down? That's the mystery question of the day. Star for you!
There was no such thing as Y! when my kids were born. My husband and I decided in privacy, and then kept it secret until a couple of days before the birth.
TX Mom
maybe not sure
name your kid vinny if its a girl
Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
i just had a little girl on the 30th and the past 2 nights she has waken up and wants to eat for like 2 hours straight when through out the day she only eats for 30 minutes at a time, by the way i breast feed. what can i do to help her sleep more through the night or at least eat less when she wakes up at night?Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
Breast milk is not as filing as formula so until your baby starts on cereal she probably will eat allot. She has probably got her days and nights mixed up and there's not much you can do about that until she gets a little older. I have breast fed 3 kids and the best advice I can give is stick it out . The first 3 weeks are the hardest but after you get used to it you will be happy you stuck it out it gets much easier.Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
That is just her feeding schedule...a baby's feeding schedule is like everyones fingerprints, they are all unique and all differ. people will tell you to put baby cereal in her bottle....DON'T!!! bad idea you can make your baby sick or choke. You can try breast feeding and bottle feeding during the night...
She is not old enough yet to have a routine. Right now, you need to feed her on demand so that your milk supply gets established. Her routine or schedule will work itself out by about 4-6 weeks of age. Stick with it. It is SO worth it! Good job and get lots of support.
Read this book! And watch the DVD!!
'The Happiest Baby on the Block'.
She is nursing for comfort at night when she nurses for 2 hours. Using the techniques in the book I mentioned will help her stay asleep. And make sure you're feeding her enough during the day. She's probably going to need to be fed at least every hour and a half. Breastmilk is more easily digested than formula so she may eat more often than formula fed babies and may wake up more at night. Formula forms large curds in the stomach as it's being digested that gives the baby a feeling of fullness for longer than breastfed babies. Feed her close to when she goes to bed also but don't nurse her to sleep!!!! If she falls asleep nursing, wake her up. You should be putting her to bed awake, otherwise she will have a hard time learning how to soothe herself to fall asleep.
A bedtime routine is infinitely helpful. You start the routine at the same time every night. We did bathtime, feeding and storytime.
She's not nursing those 2 hours at night. She's using your breast as a pacifier, which is what I would suggest you switch her to after the first 30 mins and let her learn to self-calm with that (which means letting her cry for a while until she learns it's ok and mom doesn't have to be right there for 2 hours straight). If you don't, you're going to end up with breasts that are too sore to nurse at all and then you and baby will be in a pickle.
This used to happen to me too. She is conforting herself with you....and my baby girl used to be like that....of course she will not sleep for long period of time now because she feeds I guess every 2 hours .... this is mormal at this stage but this will pass, she's just so tiny she probably needs to feel you close and cuddle, she's just knwing the world and needs you now. Have patience and good luck
When her rythmic sucking slows down and changes to sporadic sucking, she is full she is just enjoying you as she would a dummy. I agree with a previous answer, buy a pacifier.
Does she cry alot if you stop feeding her after a half an hour?
First of all CONGRATS!!! And way to go on the decision to breastfeed!
#1 When you lay your little one down give her a pacifier. It helps to soothe AND....helps to prevent SIDS.
#2 Try to feed her more during the day...even when she doesn't seem hungry.
#3 Keep her up more during the day. Though, being this young...it may not work.
#4 Play soft music or have a humidifier going at night (it can help them sleep longer)
#5 When she has eaten for a little bit at night slip her the pacifier...she may not even notice.
#6 If you are careful you could put her in bed with you and BF her on your side laying down(that way you could sleep through it).
Just remember that your sweet girl needs to eat at least every 3-4 hours. So you will need to wake her up at night to eat anway.
Oh, she is still so little and growing like crazy. Dont expect her to sleep much more than she is for some time..Try to figure out how you can nurse her, and maybe still get some sleep.. Maybe if you have a recliner that you can nurse her in, and still sleep? She needs to eat this much..Sorry! They just do.. You are doing the absolute best for her! Congrats! Believe it or not, you will get used to getting up with her and nursing her.. Make sure you are taking naps in the day time to catch up on what sleep you have missed... Good job Mama!!!
I breastfed my first baby and am currently breastfeeding my second.
You have to remember that her tummy is very small. She can only hold so much milk inside it. That's why it seems like she's constantly hungry, she's a growing baby! It's ok to feed her whenever she wants it, her body knows what it's doing.
She should be eating between 8 and 12 times in a 24 hour period. This will not last forever. As she grows her tummy will hold more and she will be able to go longer in between feedings.
She should eat about 20 minutes on one side. I found it helpful to stop feeding my baby about 10 minutes in and burp him, and then get him to try to eat more on the same side. Sometimes babies nurse that long because the latch isn't right, if you feel like it, call a lactation consultant and they can guide you through latching her on correctly. You can find an LC by calling your hospital and they can connect you.
All babies are different. My first baby would take up to 45 minutes to nurse. I would have to tickle his feet and rub his back to keep him awake to nurse. My second is usually all done in 15-20. As your baby grows, she'll be more efficient and not take as long.
ALL babies' nights and days are a little mixed up at first, here is how you help fix it:
*Feed her every two to three hours during the day, wake her up if you have to. Interact with her during the day, coo and play with her.
*At night, let her go as long as she wants between feedings. Keep lights low and noise to a minimum. You want her to figure out that being awake at night isn't as much fun. It will take a few weeks, that's normal.
PLEASE, her body is too small to sleep through the night yet. She simply can't hold enough milk to be able to do it. She's waking up because she's starving. You must feed her.
It's impossible to spoil a baby younger than 2 months. They don't learn any habits until after 2 months. Do whatever you need to do to get through the days and nights. This time doesn't last forever, just weeks, I promise.
I'd recommend making someone you know run to the book store or library for The Nursing Mother's Companion Guide. It's got a lot of good, detailed information. I'm linking a few sites that also have excellent information. Read as much as you can, breastfeeding is natural, but sometimes you have to educate yourself on how best to procede.
Good luck! And remember, listen to your heart, you're the mom and you know best.
That's weird a baby this young usually don't stay awake through a whole feeding. If the baby is falling a sleep then let her go to sleep she will wake up when she's hungry again. If you have more questions or you can email me with more details. I would be more then happy to help you.
Encourage her to eat more often during the day. Offer every 1 1/2 to 2 hours, and let her eat more frequently if she is hungry. Encourage her to nurse frequently in the evening just before she goes to sleep. Most infants have a period like your daughter's at some point during the day where they want too nurse for hours straight. Work on moving that time earlier.
Let her sleep when she wants to during the day, but make the times when she is awake bright and full of stimulation - talk to her, set some brightly colored toys within her reach, etc. During the night when she wakes up to nurse, keep light and stimulation to a minimum. Make nightime boring for her.
For now (it will take her a few weeks to change her habits) learn to nurse lying down and bring her to your bed for her 2 hour nursing marathon so that you can at least rest while she is eating.
My son did this same thing. After a few weeks (I think by 1 month) he had moved his long nursing session to just before bedtime. He also did (and still does) sleep in our bed. If you go that route in a few weeks you will be able to wake up, latch him on and go right back to sleep and get 8+ hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep. Just be sure to keep blankets and pillows away from him, as they are a suffocation hazard for small babies. Good luck!! Good for you for breastfeeding and giving your baby the very best start in life. Whatever you try to do, realize that this is a short phase - this too shall pass!
Breast milk is not as filing as formula so until your baby starts on cereal she probably will eat allot. She has probably got her days and nights mixed up and there's not much you can do about that until she gets a little older. I have breast fed 3 kids and the best advice I can give is stick it out . The first 3 weeks are the hardest but after you get used to it you will be happy you stuck it out it gets much easier.Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
That is just her feeding schedule...a baby's feeding schedule is like everyones fingerprints, they are all unique and all differ. people will tell you to put baby cereal in her bottle....DON'T!!! bad idea you can make your baby sick or choke. You can try breast feeding and bottle feeding during the night...
She is not old enough yet to have a routine. Right now, you need to feed her on demand so that your milk supply gets established. Her routine or schedule will work itself out by about 4-6 weeks of age. Stick with it. It is SO worth it! Good job and get lots of support.
Read this book! And watch the DVD!!
'The Happiest Baby on the Block'.
She is nursing for comfort at night when she nurses for 2 hours. Using the techniques in the book I mentioned will help her stay asleep. And make sure you're feeding her enough during the day. She's probably going to need to be fed at least every hour and a half. Breastmilk is more easily digested than formula so she may eat more often than formula fed babies and may wake up more at night. Formula forms large curds in the stomach as it's being digested that gives the baby a feeling of fullness for longer than breastfed babies. Feed her close to when she goes to bed also but don't nurse her to sleep!!!! If she falls asleep nursing, wake her up. You should be putting her to bed awake, otherwise she will have a hard time learning how to soothe herself to fall asleep.
A bedtime routine is infinitely helpful. You start the routine at the same time every night. We did bathtime, feeding and storytime.
She's not nursing those 2 hours at night. She's using your breast as a pacifier, which is what I would suggest you switch her to after the first 30 mins and let her learn to self-calm with that (which means letting her cry for a while until she learns it's ok and mom doesn't have to be right there for 2 hours straight). If you don't, you're going to end up with breasts that are too sore to nurse at all and then you and baby will be in a pickle.
This used to happen to me too. She is conforting herself with you....and my baby girl used to be like that....of course she will not sleep for long period of time now because she feeds I guess every 2 hours .... this is mormal at this stage but this will pass, she's just so tiny she probably needs to feel you close and cuddle, she's just knwing the world and needs you now. Have patience and good luck
When her rythmic sucking slows down and changes to sporadic sucking, she is full she is just enjoying you as she would a dummy. I agree with a previous answer, buy a pacifier.
Does she cry alot if you stop feeding her after a half an hour?
First of all CONGRATS!!! And way to go on the decision to breastfeed!
#1 When you lay your little one down give her a pacifier. It helps to soothe AND....helps to prevent SIDS.
#2 Try to feed her more during the day...even when she doesn't seem hungry.
#3 Keep her up more during the day. Though, being this young...it may not work.
#4 Play soft music or have a humidifier going at night (it can help them sleep longer)
#5 When she has eaten for a little bit at night slip her the pacifier...she may not even notice.
#6 If you are careful you could put her in bed with you and BF her on your side laying down(that way you could sleep through it).
Just remember that your sweet girl needs to eat at least every 3-4 hours. So you will need to wake her up at night to eat anway.
Oh, she is still so little and growing like crazy. Dont expect her to sleep much more than she is for some time..Try to figure out how you can nurse her, and maybe still get some sleep.. Maybe if you have a recliner that you can nurse her in, and still sleep? She needs to eat this much..Sorry! They just do.. You are doing the absolute best for her! Congrats! Believe it or not, you will get used to getting up with her and nursing her.. Make sure you are taking naps in the day time to catch up on what sleep you have missed... Good job Mama!!!
I breastfed my first baby and am currently breastfeeding my second.
You have to remember that her tummy is very small. She can only hold so much milk inside it. That's why it seems like she's constantly hungry, she's a growing baby! It's ok to feed her whenever she wants it, her body knows what it's doing.
She should be eating between 8 and 12 times in a 24 hour period. This will not last forever. As she grows her tummy will hold more and she will be able to go longer in between feedings.
She should eat about 20 minutes on one side. I found it helpful to stop feeding my baby about 10 minutes in and burp him, and then get him to try to eat more on the same side. Sometimes babies nurse that long because the latch isn't right, if you feel like it, call a lactation consultant and they can guide you through latching her on correctly. You can find an LC by calling your hospital and they can connect you.
All babies are different. My first baby would take up to 45 minutes to nurse. I would have to tickle his feet and rub his back to keep him awake to nurse. My second is usually all done in 15-20. As your baby grows, she'll be more efficient and not take as long.
ALL babies' nights and days are a little mixed up at first, here is how you help fix it:
*Feed her every two to three hours during the day, wake her up if you have to. Interact with her during the day, coo and play with her.
*At night, let her go as long as she wants between feedings. Keep lights low and noise to a minimum. You want her to figure out that being awake at night isn't as much fun. It will take a few weeks, that's normal.
PLEASE, her body is too small to sleep through the night yet. She simply can't hold enough milk to be able to do it. She's waking up because she's starving. You must feed her.
It's impossible to spoil a baby younger than 2 months. They don't learn any habits until after 2 months. Do whatever you need to do to get through the days and nights. This time doesn't last forever, just weeks, I promise.
I'd recommend making someone you know run to the book store or library for The Nursing Mother's Companion Guide. It's got a lot of good, detailed information. I'm linking a few sites that also have excellent information. Read as much as you can, breastfeeding is natural, but sometimes you have to educate yourself on how best to procede.
Good luck! And remember, listen to your heart, you're the mom and you know best.
That's weird a baby this young usually don't stay awake through a whole feeding. If the baby is falling a sleep then let her go to sleep she will wake up when she's hungry again. If you have more questions or you can email me with more details. I would be more then happy to help you.
Encourage her to eat more often during the day. Offer every 1 1/2 to 2 hours, and let her eat more frequently if she is hungry. Encourage her to nurse frequently in the evening just before she goes to sleep. Most infants have a period like your daughter's at some point during the day where they want too nurse for hours straight. Work on moving that time earlier.
Let her sleep when she wants to during the day, but make the times when she is awake bright and full of stimulation - talk to her, set some brightly colored toys within her reach, etc. During the night when she wakes up to nurse, keep light and stimulation to a minimum. Make nightime boring for her.
For now (it will take her a few weeks to change her habits) learn to nurse lying down and bring her to your bed for her 2 hour nursing marathon so that you can at least rest while she is eating.
My son did this same thing. After a few weeks (I think by 1 month) he had moved his long nursing session to just before bedtime. He also did (and still does) sleep in our bed. If you go that route in a few weeks you will be able to wake up, latch him on and go right back to sleep and get 8+ hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep. Just be sure to keep blankets and pillows away from him, as they are a suffocation hazard for small babies. Good luck!! Good for you for breastfeeding and giving your baby the very best start in life. Whatever you try to do, realize that this is a short phase - this too shall pass!
Why do people give advice on issue regrading safety when they are guessing?
for example many many unsafe answer here about home wiringWhy do people give advice on issue regrading safety when they are guessing?
Verdugo: People are here for guidence as far as I see. I don't think we are dealing with little ten year olds that don't know anything about touching a wire won't get you shocked. If this is the way you think you should answer a question. Then you go ahead and start giving the same answer to every question. Cause you don't know who is on the other side of the computer. Right? I feel that who ever is going to ask a question beaware of the consequences. If anyone don't know exactly nothing of home power, and don't have a volt meter, then yes I agree. Don't post any questions here on yahoo answers and call an electrician. OH by the way I changed my answer to the previous question on which wire to cut. He really sounded like if he really going to shock himself no matter what he does according to his knowledge. I wanna thank you for pointing that out.
don't touch a thing you fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
the electricity doesn't know what color the wire is
if the last guy did it wrong either wire could kill you
you COULD HAVE REVERSE POLARITY SWITCHED NEUTRALS, SWITCH LOOPS
THERE ARE ENDLESS WAY TO WIRE THAT COULD MAKE THE WHITE , BLACK OR BOTH DANGEROUS
if the last guy did it right either wire could kill you
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I am Master electricianWhy do people give advice on issue regrading safety when they are guessing?
It's because it's an anonymous forum and unless you have experience or expert knowledge in a particular field, when you ask a question you have no real way of knowing whether whoever answers your question knows what they're talking about or not. Some of the answers I see are completely off the wall, others are so far from right they'd have to be in an alternate universe to even be considered wrong. Most home wiring is fairly simple, some can get complicated. The most important thing to remember when working on wiring is to shut it off at the source and don't get in over your head.
For some, I think they just want to offer an opinion, perhaps based on a similar experience. For others who have some knowledge or background related to the question, they often have to make some assumptions based on that knowledge, because very often the question doesn't provide enough detail to offer the ultimate solution.
I don't understand it either. Mainly with electrical. I'm an electrician and I have quite a bit of fun answering peoples questions. Some of the responses blow my mind. I don't think people realize that other ones asking a question may take their advice for its face value, which could result in the loss of everything they own or even death in a fire. The world is full of stupid people.
People come for answer not others telling them to call a professional.
I get really annoyed with people just reply back
';go see a doctor';
';go to a vet';
';go to the mechanic';
';call a electrician';
2 points? Many of the questions sem to be either 3 way switch wiring or a dead circuit. Seems safer for them to call a pro.
Verdugo: People are here for guidence as far as I see. I don't think we are dealing with little ten year olds that don't know anything about touching a wire won't get you shocked. If this is the way you think you should answer a question. Then you go ahead and start giving the same answer to every question. Cause you don't know who is on the other side of the computer. Right? I feel that who ever is going to ask a question beaware of the consequences. If anyone don't know exactly nothing of home power, and don't have a volt meter, then yes I agree. Don't post any questions here on yahoo answers and call an electrician. OH by the way I changed my answer to the previous question on which wire to cut. He really sounded like if he really going to shock himself no matter what he does according to his knowledge. I wanna thank you for pointing that out.
don't touch a thing you fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
the electricity doesn't know what color the wire is
if the last guy did it wrong either wire could kill you
you COULD HAVE REVERSE POLARITY SWITCHED NEUTRALS, SWITCH LOOPS
THERE ARE ENDLESS WAY TO WIRE THAT COULD MAKE THE WHITE , BLACK OR BOTH DANGEROUS
if the last guy did it right either wire could kill you
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I am Master electricianWhy do people give advice on issue regrading safety when they are guessing?
It's because it's an anonymous forum and unless you have experience or expert knowledge in a particular field, when you ask a question you have no real way of knowing whether whoever answers your question knows what they're talking about or not. Some of the answers I see are completely off the wall, others are so far from right they'd have to be in an alternate universe to even be considered wrong. Most home wiring is fairly simple, some can get complicated. The most important thing to remember when working on wiring is to shut it off at the source and don't get in over your head.
For some, I think they just want to offer an opinion, perhaps based on a similar experience. For others who have some knowledge or background related to the question, they often have to make some assumptions based on that knowledge, because very often the question doesn't provide enough detail to offer the ultimate solution.
I don't understand it either. Mainly with electrical. I'm an electrician and I have quite a bit of fun answering peoples questions. Some of the responses blow my mind. I don't think people realize that other ones asking a question may take their advice for its face value, which could result in the loss of everything they own or even death in a fire. The world is full of stupid people.
People come for answer not others telling them to call a professional.
I get really annoyed with people just reply back
';go see a doctor';
';go to a vet';
';go to the mechanic';
';call a electrician';
2 points? Many of the questions sem to be either 3 way switch wiring or a dead circuit. Seems safer for them to call a pro.
I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
I have a 15 year old son. I wanted to know if there were exams he had to get. Like a prostate or something like that. Like the girls have gyno exams but what about for boys.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
Take him to a family practitioner (or general practitioner) for a ';well patient'; exam or physical. The doc will take care of it.
No, he doesn't need a prostate exam, but he will need a hernia exam.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
He is too young for the doctor to carry out such examination on him when he reaches the correct age about 30
Take him to a family practitioner (or general practitioner) for a ';well patient'; exam or physical. The doc will take care of it.
No, he doesn't need a prostate exam, but he will need a hernia exam.I need advice from people who have noledge in medical stuff.?
He is too young for the doctor to carry out such examination on him when he reaches the correct age about 30
How do I get people to use my advice column?
I'm not going to advertise it her because I think that's against the rules, but are there any free ways to advertise it? I want to get it around, and I want to be getting emails from around the nation. How do I do this?How do I get people to use my advice column?
Umm, How do you get an advice column?
Wow the net is all about marketing. Do you have an actual website?
I mean there are dozens of popular venues that bring people to you. You need to take the example of google, and use popular keywords.
Umm, How do you get an advice column?
Wow the net is all about marketing. Do you have an actual website?
I mean there are dozens of popular venues that bring people to you. You need to take the example of google, and use popular keywords.
Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
I'm a student at UT Austin. I have created a professional business organization to launch business projects for the sheer adventure.
However, I'm having trouble finding more people that are driven, creative, and good communicators(different from social skills).
How in the world do I find these people in social networks?
P.S.
I've been in a lot of social networks and I have yet to find someone that isn't completely boring and time wasteful especially in the UT wild party school.Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
1) Go to and join the more adventurous Yahoo Groups.
2) Market to the schools in the more adventurous cities (NY, Chicago, Las Vegas, LA, etc)
3) Your best bet is to find young business owners who are already doing it... These people are learning that ';talk'; is everything and, if they like your ideas they will spread the word and it will become a snowball effect.
4) The SBA might be able to help you.
I applaud what you're doing and wish you well. (25 year business owner) If there's anything I can do to help - let me know.cream blush
However, I'm having trouble finding more people that are driven, creative, and good communicators(different from social skills).
How in the world do I find these people in social networks?
P.S.
I've been in a lot of social networks and I have yet to find someone that isn't completely boring and time wasteful especially in the UT wild party school.Need advice on networking with people for adventure?
1) Go to and join the more adventurous Yahoo Groups.
2) Market to the schools in the more adventurous cities (NY, Chicago, Las Vegas, LA, etc)
3) Your best bet is to find young business owners who are already doing it... These people are learning that ';talk'; is everything and, if they like your ideas they will spread the word and it will become a snowball effect.
4) The SBA might be able to help you.
I applaud what you're doing and wish you well. (25 year business owner) If there's anything I can do to help - let me know.
How come real questions like medical or moral or ethical or people needing advice get hardly any answers at ?
all if any, but questions like, Whats your dogs name or What did you have for dinner get like 40 and 50 answers?!?!?! It is so frustrating!!!How come real questions like medical or moral or ethical or people needing advice get hardly any answers at ?
Because no one knows the answer to those sort of questions.
Because no one knows the answer to those sort of questions.
Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
Do you get upset if you find out later that the source of the advice you had followed turned out to have never been a parent?Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
I will listen to parenting advice from anyone if it's about general philosophy and backed up by a pediatrician or behavioralist or the supernanny. However, I admit, if I know someone is not a parent, I would discredit it a little bit. Mostly because prior to being a parent, I had all these grand ideas on how I would parent my child once I had him - - then once he's here, reality sets in and I do it much different. So those 'real world tips' - not that they're any better coming from a parent - but I have to ask myself - ';How do they know?';. It's more a problem when those who do not have kids are critical about what those who do have kids are doing. Tough to criticize when you have not been there. If I took advice from someone and later found otu they didn't have kids and the advice helped....I woulnd't be mad at all - I'd just think this person had really, really good instincts about kids. Hope it doesn't sound snarky....just being honest about an honest question you're asking.Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
depends on if the advice worked or not. but normally i take all the advice i can get no matter who it came from. If it works, great!! if not, then seek someone with better advice next time! LOL
Not if it worked. And if it didn't work, now I'd know why.
Just to bring something up, I'm not a parent and I'm on the Parenting questions a lot. I don't answer every question but I may respond to a few that catch my interest or if I feel that I can provide adequate advice. I do however have my Early Childhood Education diploma and I'm planning on having children in the future and I do have experience of caring for children in both daycare centres and homes.
I don't think people without kids should tell people with kids what to do. It's different when you actually have children and everyone thinks they're an expert. Besides, all kids and parents are different so when I get advice from anyone, parent or not, I think about whether or not I think it would work for me and if it doesn't I don't do it. But I'm definitely reluctant to listen to someone who's never been in my situation before.
no sometimes it takes a creative outside opinion to se a solution to a problem. especailly if maybe that person had childcare or meidcal experience, or a psych degree etc.... sometimes being a parent doens't mean you have good advice for another parent either! =)
It all depends on what the advice was...everyone is entitled to answer and if theyv answered they myst know at least what ther talking about...with this u either take the advice or leave it...it doesnt upset me, i think its nice to know ppl want to try and help.
If the advice is logical, and if it is something that is applicable to the situation, I would say it doesn't really matter what the source was. I guess the point being, if you don't want advice, don't ask.
No not at all remember that everyone was a child at some point and we all learn from our parents just because someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they don't know what their talking about. I learned alot from a good friend of mine when my son was a baby because she had younger sister that she helped out with alot. She has her own boys now that are both under the age of ten and she calls me to get advise about them and my son is 17 . I feel you can learn from everyone.
it depends, as with any advice you have to pick it apart, see if it seems reasonable, maybe research it a bit, you dont have to have a kid to have been around them and know how they work, at the same time, some parents are just shitty and i woudnt take their advice for anything....
i don't ignore advice, i tend to filter what i feel will work for my kids however, i do ignore their criticizing
I'm not a parent just yet. However, I've had many years experience working with children and infants so if it's a situation I've ran into then I will give my advice/opinion on it. Obviously I do not know EVERYTHING there is to know about parenting and I will not answer if that is the case.
I will listen to parenting advice from anyone if it's about general philosophy and backed up by a pediatrician or behavioralist or the supernanny. However, I admit, if I know someone is not a parent, I would discredit it a little bit. Mostly because prior to being a parent, I had all these grand ideas on how I would parent my child once I had him - - then once he's here, reality sets in and I do it much different. So those 'real world tips' - not that they're any better coming from a parent - but I have to ask myself - ';How do they know?';. It's more a problem when those who do not have kids are critical about what those who do have kids are doing. Tough to criticize when you have not been there. If I took advice from someone and later found otu they didn't have kids and the advice helped....I woulnd't be mad at all - I'd just think this person had really, really good instincts about kids. Hope it doesn't sound snarky....just being honest about an honest question you're asking.Do you ignore or discredit parenting advice and tips from people who AREN'T parents?
depends on if the advice worked or not. but normally i take all the advice i can get no matter who it came from. If it works, great!! if not, then seek someone with better advice next time! LOL
Not if it worked. And if it didn't work, now I'd know why.
Just to bring something up, I'm not a parent and I'm on the Parenting questions a lot. I don't answer every question but I may respond to a few that catch my interest or if I feel that I can provide adequate advice. I do however have my Early Childhood Education diploma and I'm planning on having children in the future and I do have experience of caring for children in both daycare centres and homes.
I don't think people without kids should tell people with kids what to do. It's different when you actually have children and everyone thinks they're an expert. Besides, all kids and parents are different so when I get advice from anyone, parent or not, I think about whether or not I think it would work for me and if it doesn't I don't do it. But I'm definitely reluctant to listen to someone who's never been in my situation before.
no sometimes it takes a creative outside opinion to se a solution to a problem. especailly if maybe that person had childcare or meidcal experience, or a psych degree etc.... sometimes being a parent doens't mean you have good advice for another parent either! =)
It all depends on what the advice was...everyone is entitled to answer and if theyv answered they myst know at least what ther talking about...with this u either take the advice or leave it...it doesnt upset me, i think its nice to know ppl want to try and help.
If the advice is logical, and if it is something that is applicable to the situation, I would say it doesn't really matter what the source was. I guess the point being, if you don't want advice, don't ask.
No not at all remember that everyone was a child at some point and we all learn from our parents just because someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they don't know what their talking about. I learned alot from a good friend of mine when my son was a baby because she had younger sister that she helped out with alot. She has her own boys now that are both under the age of ten and she calls me to get advise about them and my son is 17 . I feel you can learn from everyone.
it depends, as with any advice you have to pick it apart, see if it seems reasonable, maybe research it a bit, you dont have to have a kid to have been around them and know how they work, at the same time, some parents are just shitty and i woudnt take their advice for anything....
i don't ignore advice, i tend to filter what i feel will work for my kids however, i do ignore their criticizing
I'm not a parent just yet. However, I've had many years experience working with children and infants so if it's a situation I've ran into then I will give my advice/opinion on it. Obviously I do not know EVERYTHING there is to know about parenting and I will not answer if that is the case.
Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
why is it when someone is physically abused then they are told to run from that person?
why is it when someone is sexually abused then they are told to run from that person and press charges?
but when it comes to emotional abuse then everyone always says..';just live with it.. they are only yelling at you,.. its not like they are hitting you or anything..'; like if emotional abuse doesn't have the same effect as physical or sexual abuse does?
not say that physical abuse or sexual abuse isn't very traumatic because i know it is but it just seems to me that emotional abuse doesn't really get light like the other two..Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
I think that emotional abuse is just as dangerous as sexual and physical abuse.
if you are being abused emotionally (which is different from just having an arguement) then chances of emotional abuse developing into physical abuse is very likely.
No one should put up with abuse of any kind, whether its words or fists. Anyone who needs to hurt another to feel better about themselves are bad bad people. Leave them to stew in their negativity and go be happy without them.
Whoever says ';just deal with it, its only yelling...'; is a doorknob. Never listen to a doorknob.Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
It goes back to the Victorian response to the advent of modern psychology. If people were to acknoledge it, it is like admitting that they themselves are not perfect - indeed influenced by frued's ideas. Mybe they do like women similar to their mother, maybe they did envy their fathers penis. - Its heavy stuff even today.
Emotional abuse is similar, those people who denounce it are either so zen as to be able to rise above the meanings that may be attached to what people may say to harm them. Or they are somewhere in the spectrum of denial that they two can be hurt by the conitations of peoples language.
If you look at the patterns, emotional abuse is usually at the root of all physical and sexual abuse. It is all tranference of pain. And this is very confronting to most people. Most people in some way treat others like they were, at least at some stage treated themselves....Hmm makes you think about your motives dson't it.
Emotional abuse is definitely a form of abuse that can affect ones life to the core. It's kind of breaking a person's being. Many of these individuals need professional help to overcome their issues of the past. The ones that don't are still trying to figure things out on their own or perhaps take advice from someone they trust. Anyway, whether you seek professional help or not, you don't forget. You are left with scars. You can truly move on, when you know that it's been dealt with and you have overcome these obstacles in your life.
You must let go of for your own sake.
I think you're right. Emotional abuse can be just as bad, even in some situations maybe worse. And it should get more attention, and the victims more help and recognition.
why is it when someone is sexually abused then they are told to run from that person and press charges?
but when it comes to emotional abuse then everyone always says..';just live with it.. they are only yelling at you,.. its not like they are hitting you or anything..'; like if emotional abuse doesn't have the same effect as physical or sexual abuse does?
not say that physical abuse or sexual abuse isn't very traumatic because i know it is but it just seems to me that emotional abuse doesn't really get light like the other two..Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
I think that emotional abuse is just as dangerous as sexual and physical abuse.
if you are being abused emotionally (which is different from just having an arguement) then chances of emotional abuse developing into physical abuse is very likely.
No one should put up with abuse of any kind, whether its words or fists. Anyone who needs to hurt another to feel better about themselves are bad bad people. Leave them to stew in their negativity and go be happy without them.
Whoever says ';just deal with it, its only yelling...'; is a doorknob. Never listen to a doorknob.Why do people give different advice for different types of abuse?
It goes back to the Victorian response to the advent of modern psychology. If people were to acknoledge it, it is like admitting that they themselves are not perfect - indeed influenced by frued's ideas. Mybe they do like women similar to their mother, maybe they did envy their fathers penis. - Its heavy stuff even today.
Emotional abuse is similar, those people who denounce it are either so zen as to be able to rise above the meanings that may be attached to what people may say to harm them. Or they are somewhere in the spectrum of denial that they two can be hurt by the conitations of peoples language.
If you look at the patterns, emotional abuse is usually at the root of all physical and sexual abuse. It is all tranference of pain. And this is very confronting to most people. Most people in some way treat others like they were, at least at some stage treated themselves....Hmm makes you think about your motives dson't it.
Emotional abuse is definitely a form of abuse that can affect ones life to the core. It's kind of breaking a person's being. Many of these individuals need professional help to overcome their issues of the past. The ones that don't are still trying to figure things out on their own or perhaps take advice from someone they trust. Anyway, whether you seek professional help or not, you don't forget. You are left with scars. You can truly move on, when you know that it's been dealt with and you have overcome these obstacles in your life.
You must let go of for your own sake.
I think you're right. Emotional abuse can be just as bad, even in some situations maybe worse. And it should get more attention, and the victims more help and recognition.
Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
My friend does not want to me to get into drugs yet she still does drugs now. Wtf?Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
She's just looking out for you.
Hopefully it is because she knows that she has made a few bad choices, and she doesn't want you to end up in her situation.
Heed her advice.
Please, from a formal drug addict, and a successfully rehabilitated addict, please, stay away from drugs.Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
yep , you should listen to her. Its not like its easy to quit once you start. Its like a smoker telling you not to smoke.
besides your better off not doing them. If you wanted to marry a rich doctor or decent person that comes from a respectable family, you better think twice because any respectable family will not except a druggie into their family.
Because she know's she screwed up bad and she does not want you to follow dow nthe same path she see's potential in you and does not want you to throw it away.Why don't you help her and get help
It's the very definition of ';Hypocrite';....
Though, maybe in your case your friend is just trying to steer you away from a life of misery (drugs).
Would she be a better friend to you if she gave you drugs? Somehow, I think not.....
She knows she made a mistake and is now trapped, and is trying to save you from going through the same pain she has gone through. It is possible to know what the right choice is, even if you can't act on it.
I don't know why people do that. People are always doing the same to me and not following their own advice. I really hate that.
Hmmm. Lots of people do that. Who knows? Maybe because it's easy to give out advice and not reflect upon your own problems? Just rambling here.
She knows what drugs can do and cares about you so she doesn't want you to get into a bad lifestyle.
Like black people? They say dont be racist and dont generalize but they do the same against whites.
Maybe your friend is hooked, and can't just quit. She doesn't want that to happen to you.
She knows you're better than her.
She's just looking out for you.
Hopefully it is because she knows that she has made a few bad choices, and she doesn't want you to end up in her situation.
Heed her advice.
Please, from a formal drug addict, and a successfully rehabilitated addict, please, stay away from drugs.Why do people give you advice they do not follow?
yep , you should listen to her. Its not like its easy to quit once you start. Its like a smoker telling you not to smoke.
besides your better off not doing them. If you wanted to marry a rich doctor or decent person that comes from a respectable family, you better think twice because any respectable family will not except a druggie into their family.
Because she know's she screwed up bad and she does not want you to follow dow nthe same path she see's potential in you and does not want you to throw it away.Why don't you help her and get help
It's the very definition of ';Hypocrite';....
Though, maybe in your case your friend is just trying to steer you away from a life of misery (drugs).
Would she be a better friend to you if she gave you drugs? Somehow, I think not.....
She knows she made a mistake and is now trapped, and is trying to save you from going through the same pain she has gone through. It is possible to know what the right choice is, even if you can't act on it.
I don't know why people do that. People are always doing the same to me and not following their own advice. I really hate that.
Hmmm. Lots of people do that. Who knows? Maybe because it's easy to give out advice and not reflect upon your own problems? Just rambling here.
She knows what drugs can do and cares about you so she doesn't want you to get into a bad lifestyle.
Like black people? They say dont be racist and dont generalize but they do the same against whites.
Maybe your friend is hooked, and can't just quit. She doesn't want that to happen to you.
She knows you're better than her.
How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
Just asking because I had given a reasonable answer, w/ backup, but there were biosed people that down thumbed it. The poor person asking the question may end up developing a biosed point of view.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
All you can do is hope to get enough answers that you can form an oppinion and be openminded to what others think. I can't stand when someone does not read your whole question and then gives you a stupid answer that doesn't even go along with what you asked.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
I've received good and bad.As far as thumbs up and down,you can't put a whole lot in to that,it's just peeps opinion.All a part of what makes yahoo so dam addictive.
there are people that love to give stupid advice and will down play or put down any other kind of advice. don't want to admit they are wrong!
I see a lot of really awful answers here. The sad part is, I think only a small fraction of those are stupid on purpose. Most people just don't really know what they are talking about. It's different when you are asking for people's opinions- that's very subjective. But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.
I'd not rate the advice terrible but my issues are:
1) People must weigh the answers and maybe use them for further research.
2) Some are not clear on what they asking.
3) Flippant questions, well you know the saying, ';Ask a stupid question get a stupid....';
';But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.';
This is quoted from the answer of holocaust denier/racist venin_noir. I rather hope she is including herself in the category of ';so wrong';, but I'm probably being naive. Seriously, check out some of her answers relating to Jews, Blacks, Naziism etc. She is spewing a lot of vile hatred on Yahoo Answers, and should be challenged.
every time i ask a question as to where to find something, i always get ';check e-bay'; as an answer. i wouldn't be asking if it was on ebay.
Very true it is possible for the asker to become biased based on answers being thumbed up or down. The only thing is the asker needs to not look for thumb up or down answers, but what suits their purpose the best. I know what you mean about getting terrible advice though, it seems like sometimes it's rare to get a good answer.
why do u think u got the best answer???it is a matter of difference ,and if u really did ,dont worry he will stil be able to read your answer ,it was just minimised unless your answer was flaged,
All you can do is hope to get enough answers that you can form an oppinion and be openminded to what others think. I can't stand when someone does not read your whole question and then gives you a stupid answer that doesn't even go along with what you asked.How many people get terrible advice from Yahoo Answers?
I've received good and bad.As far as thumbs up and down,you can't put a whole lot in to that,it's just peeps opinion.All a part of what makes yahoo so dam addictive.
there are people that love to give stupid advice and will down play or put down any other kind of advice. don't want to admit they are wrong!
I see a lot of really awful answers here. The sad part is, I think only a small fraction of those are stupid on purpose. Most people just don't really know what they are talking about. It's different when you are asking for people's opinions- that's very subjective. But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.
I'd not rate the advice terrible but my issues are:
1) People must weigh the answers and maybe use them for further research.
2) Some are not clear on what they asking.
3) Flippant questions, well you know the saying, ';Ask a stupid question get a stupid....';
';But when it comes to factual information, most people are so wrong it's not even funny.';
This is quoted from the answer of holocaust denier/racist venin_noir. I rather hope she is including herself in the category of ';so wrong';, but I'm probably being naive. Seriously, check out some of her answers relating to Jews, Blacks, Naziism etc. She is spewing a lot of vile hatred on Yahoo Answers, and should be challenged.
every time i ask a question as to where to find something, i always get ';check e-bay'; as an answer. i wouldn't be asking if it was on ebay.
Very true it is possible for the asker to become biased based on answers being thumbed up or down. The only thing is the asker needs to not look for thumb up or down answers, but what suits their purpose the best. I know what you mean about getting terrible advice though, it seems like sometimes it's rare to get a good answer.
why do u think u got the best answer???it is a matter of difference ,and if u really did ,dont worry he will stil be able to read your answer ,it was just minimised unless your answer was flaged,
Do you think what kind of personality the people given advice should have?
do you always give or get acvice to and from others?Do you think what kind of personality the people given advice should have?
Empathy and unconditional positive regard. The person needs to be able to put themselves in the other person's shoes and try to imagine how they feel with the current situation and they need to accept the person's feelings about a situation whether they agree with it or not. Even if the situation the person is in seems trivial to the one given advice, it obviously is important to the person asking or they would not be asking for advice. The person giving the advice should also be able to take advice and criticism from others. Do you think what kind of personality the people given advice should have?
Empathy and acceptance of other people's current emotional state are imperative prerequisites.cream blush
Empathy and unconditional positive regard. The person needs to be able to put themselves in the other person's shoes and try to imagine how they feel with the current situation and they need to accept the person's feelings about a situation whether they agree with it or not. Even if the situation the person is in seems trivial to the one given advice, it obviously is important to the person asking or they would not be asking for advice. The person giving the advice should also be able to take advice and criticism from others. Do you think what kind of personality the people given advice should have?
Empathy and acceptance of other people's current emotional state are imperative prerequisites.
Why do new mothers get so mad when people give their advice?
I was the same way when I was pregnant and after I had my baby. I would get so mad when people would give me advice about how to do things. I would get so stubborn and get mad. Now I look back and a lot of those suggestions were very good suggestions. After I got over my stubborness, I used those suggestions and they work really well. Why do we act like that though?Why do new mothers get so mad when people give their advice?
Everyone wants to be a great parent and we're all terrified that we won't be. We get defencive when someone tries to give advice because we feel like we're being attacked even though people are just trying to be helpful and pass on their experience.Why do new mothers get so mad when people give their advice?
i guess it is because when we were little we hated it for ex: don't eat that you'll get sick so we would eat it then get sick and wish we would have listened we just thought we had all the answers and hated it when people would tell us what to do i know when i became a mother for the first time i actually listened to the advise of other mothers and chose which one might actually work heck i still do
I think it is because once you get confident enough to even go out into the world to show off you baby, people are quick to tell you what they think you are doing wrong.I have a 6 month old and I hate it when people tell me what I SHOULD DO with a child I carried for 9 months and they just met for 9 minutes! No child is the same, and frankly it is no one elses business.
lol,,, i done the same thing and then once anyone had a baby drove them mad with advice....
in my case everyone was giving me advice all the time, most of it contradicting with another persons, everyone thinks they are a expert and everyone thinks they know everything, it does get a bit of a pain when everyones on your case telling you what is right, when all you want people to do is leave you alone and let you get on with it, perhaps if people waited to someone asked for advice rather than pushing it then we wouldn't get the hump about it
having said all that i still do it to other people!!!
Even though they are ';suggestions'; we feel like we are being told what to do. That and trying to adjust to a new way of life in our own way, on our own terms and time. You are right though, much of the advice was useful, just given at the wrong time.
it probably has something to do with how new mothers already question themselves and feel that they arent doing things right/good enough. and when someone gives advice we look at it as is it that ovbious im not doing it right?!?
Because you want to come up with the solutions for yourself.
Some things my mother and mother-in-law suggested wasn't right......it was right 30 years OK....but some of those things had changed.
When my daughter has her first child....I'll give advice when and if I'm asked.
we all ahve a fantasy of how we will do thing so much better than anyone else. thank god this phase doesnt last long. Then I think it gets replaced with I've had so many kids now that I totally know what I'm doing and I think that's when we grow into really bonding and knowing our child/ren that we become mom.
Because while others may know from experience, as a new mom, we're not perfect but we'd certainly like to try things out and learn on our own. And I also remember getting VERY upset with a family member of mine because when my newborn was crying she took him and insisted she knew what was wrong with him. She took off his clothes, his diaper, tried burping him and I just took him away from her and said the reason he was freaking out was because there was a housefull of people he'd never seen before. He was stressed out from being held and around loud people.
Advice is one thing, taking over is another. And there's a very fine line in between.
I think its because we all want to be good mothers and don't like the idea of people telling us what to do like we're stupid. Also we get so much of it that we're sick of hearing about it and parenting is a lot different now than when our grandparents were raising children.
Because you are already feeling overwhelmed and insecure enough and you don't need other people pointing it out to you by giving unsolicited advice.
Honestly, the only advice I ever took was my pediatrician's or the advice I actively sought. And it hasn't seemed to hurt my son yet. He's a great kid at 16.
I think personally new mum's get mad because they want to learn from their own mistakes rather than be told by someone else about the mistakes of other people. I hated getting told what to do with my baby my oldest is 13(nearly)and my youngest is 1 and people still tried to tell me wot do to with my daughter
'advice' is too great a word.(I do really fear to use it when I do not know who the beneficiary is and how he /she will use /interpret it! But if you feel happy then good -no worry ; must be one amongst the happiest being!
I think it's because everyone has different views on how to raise children. For example, some of my relatives do things that I would NEVER do, yet were trying to push their beliefs on my husband and me. I think a new mother is also nervous and unsure about how she's doing enough without people telling her how to do things; it just makes her more self - conscious. The rule of thumb is that unless the parent is doing something that could cause serious bodily harm/death to the child, well - meaning people should bite their tongues and only give advice when asked for it. Trust me, there have been times when I've wanted to ';share'; some advice, but I keep quiet because I know it might be taken poorly.
Everyone wants to be a great parent and we're all terrified that we won't be. We get defencive when someone tries to give advice because we feel like we're being attacked even though people are just trying to be helpful and pass on their experience.Why do new mothers get so mad when people give their advice?
i guess it is because when we were little we hated it for ex: don't eat that you'll get sick so we would eat it then get sick and wish we would have listened we just thought we had all the answers and hated it when people would tell us what to do i know when i became a mother for the first time i actually listened to the advise of other mothers and chose which one might actually work heck i still do
I think it is because once you get confident enough to even go out into the world to show off you baby, people are quick to tell you what they think you are doing wrong.I have a 6 month old and I hate it when people tell me what I SHOULD DO with a child I carried for 9 months and they just met for 9 minutes! No child is the same, and frankly it is no one elses business.
lol,,, i done the same thing and then once anyone had a baby drove them mad with advice....
in my case everyone was giving me advice all the time, most of it contradicting with another persons, everyone thinks they are a expert and everyone thinks they know everything, it does get a bit of a pain when everyones on your case telling you what is right, when all you want people to do is leave you alone and let you get on with it, perhaps if people waited to someone asked for advice rather than pushing it then we wouldn't get the hump about it
having said all that i still do it to other people!!!
Even though they are ';suggestions'; we feel like we are being told what to do. That and trying to adjust to a new way of life in our own way, on our own terms and time. You are right though, much of the advice was useful, just given at the wrong time.
it probably has something to do with how new mothers already question themselves and feel that they arent doing things right/good enough. and when someone gives advice we look at it as is it that ovbious im not doing it right?!?
Because you want to come up with the solutions for yourself.
Some things my mother and mother-in-law suggested wasn't right......it was right 30 years OK....but some of those things had changed.
When my daughter has her first child....I'll give advice when and if I'm asked.
we all ahve a fantasy of how we will do thing so much better than anyone else. thank god this phase doesnt last long. Then I think it gets replaced with I've had so many kids now that I totally know what I'm doing and I think that's when we grow into really bonding and knowing our child/ren that we become mom.
Because while others may know from experience, as a new mom, we're not perfect but we'd certainly like to try things out and learn on our own. And I also remember getting VERY upset with a family member of mine because when my newborn was crying she took him and insisted she knew what was wrong with him. She took off his clothes, his diaper, tried burping him and I just took him away from her and said the reason he was freaking out was because there was a housefull of people he'd never seen before. He was stressed out from being held and around loud people.
Advice is one thing, taking over is another. And there's a very fine line in between.
I think its because we all want to be good mothers and don't like the idea of people telling us what to do like we're stupid. Also we get so much of it that we're sick of hearing about it and parenting is a lot different now than when our grandparents were raising children.
Because you are already feeling overwhelmed and insecure enough and you don't need other people pointing it out to you by giving unsolicited advice.
Honestly, the only advice I ever took was my pediatrician's or the advice I actively sought. And it hasn't seemed to hurt my son yet. He's a great kid at 16.
I think personally new mum's get mad because they want to learn from their own mistakes rather than be told by someone else about the mistakes of other people. I hated getting told what to do with my baby my oldest is 13(nearly)and my youngest is 1 and people still tried to tell me wot do to with my daughter
'advice' is too great a word.(I do really fear to use it when I do not know who the beneficiary is and how he /she will use /interpret it! But if you feel happy then good -no worry ; must be one amongst the happiest being!
I think it's because everyone has different views on how to raise children. For example, some of my relatives do things that I would NEVER do, yet were trying to push their beliefs on my husband and me. I think a new mother is also nervous and unsure about how she's doing enough without people telling her how to do things; it just makes her more self - conscious. The rule of thumb is that unless the parent is doing something that could cause serious bodily harm/death to the child, well - meaning people should bite their tongues and only give advice when asked for it. Trust me, there have been times when I've wanted to ';share'; some advice, but I keep quiet because I know it might be taken poorly.
Any real estate agents have advice for people aspiring to get there license?
Everyone told me to have 3 months of reserves in the bank. That was not such great advice. I made $1,900 my entire first year. I saw agents selling 1 house every week. I wondered how i would ever get there.
I would give you 2 advices:
Get listings. Most new agents never get a listing. They picture themselves driving buyers around and making offers. That's nice but listings keep you going thru all markets. Read the book by Gael Himmah about Listing houses (Listing Magic or Listing Master is the title-i can't remember).
If it is not working, don't fool yourself. Give up. Out of the 100 in my realty school, i am the last one left. The others hung on too long and were out of money./Any real estate agents have advice for people aspiring to get there license?
You have to decide if you want to spend several months going to a local junior college learning how to obtain your license or going to a seminar or two that teach you how to pass the test to get your license.
That is a choice you have to make. Personally the one that prepares you to pass the exam is better. That is the easy part getting enough information and learning to pass the real estate exam.
Once you have successfully passed the real estate exam, the newly licensed real estate agent now think they will automatically walk into a real estate office and people that want to sell houses and those that want to buy houses will simply call. ';NOT SO';
While you are getting your real estate license I suggest you take a couple of classes in marketing yourself, going to a few self-esteem classes, changing your wardrobe to a professional wardrobe.
Of the ones I have mentioned above the most important is marketing yourself.
Those that are unsuccessful will tell you that nothing work and it is a hit and miss game. That is not so.
Successful real estate agents have a plan and a marketing technique that work for them and make them successful.
You want to watch the cold calling. There is a ';Do Not Calling List'; one mistake on this and it could cost you as well as your firm $11,000 each so make sure your office have a ';Do Not Call Policy';.
I find that marketing yourself in one area that you become very familiar with will reap the best benefits for you.
Don't forget to form a professional team of industry professionals that will assist you in doing your job.
The other thing is become professional in one phase of real estate. Selling high end homes, Selling to the moderate and low end market.
What ever you do you can not be a Notary, loan officer, insurance salesman, and work a title company part time.
So if you plan to sell houses specialize in selling houses. If you are gonna specialize in selling commercial properties specialize in selling commercial properties.
Your professional team will be the one to farm other things out to that you don't specialize in. They will refer things to you that you don't specialize in.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
'FIGHT ON';Any real estate agents have advice for people aspiring to get there license?
A few things --
Network. Always network. Every single person you meet or talk to could be a potential client.
Being a realtor is not a license to think you are above everyone in the food chain. You may bring business to your favorite Escrow Officer but you could pick up business from other escrow personnel, insurance agents, loan officers, etc.
Always leave a lasting impression of professionalism. Don't think that your phone will ring off the wall - or that flyers will bring you business.
Come up a marketing plan to sell yourself.
Good Luck.
Check your spelling.
I would give you 2 advices:
Get listings. Most new agents never get a listing. They picture themselves driving buyers around and making offers. That's nice but listings keep you going thru all markets. Read the book by Gael Himmah about Listing houses (Listing Magic or Listing Master is the title-i can't remember).
If it is not working, don't fool yourself. Give up. Out of the 100 in my realty school, i am the last one left. The others hung on too long and were out of money./Any real estate agents have advice for people aspiring to get there license?
You have to decide if you want to spend several months going to a local junior college learning how to obtain your license or going to a seminar or two that teach you how to pass the test to get your license.
That is a choice you have to make. Personally the one that prepares you to pass the exam is better. That is the easy part getting enough information and learning to pass the real estate exam.
Once you have successfully passed the real estate exam, the newly licensed real estate agent now think they will automatically walk into a real estate office and people that want to sell houses and those that want to buy houses will simply call. ';NOT SO';
While you are getting your real estate license I suggest you take a couple of classes in marketing yourself, going to a few self-esteem classes, changing your wardrobe to a professional wardrobe.
Of the ones I have mentioned above the most important is marketing yourself.
Those that are unsuccessful will tell you that nothing work and it is a hit and miss game. That is not so.
Successful real estate agents have a plan and a marketing technique that work for them and make them successful.
You want to watch the cold calling. There is a ';Do Not Calling List'; one mistake on this and it could cost you as well as your firm $11,000 each so make sure your office have a ';Do Not Call Policy';.
I find that marketing yourself in one area that you become very familiar with will reap the best benefits for you.
Don't forget to form a professional team of industry professionals that will assist you in doing your job.
The other thing is become professional in one phase of real estate. Selling high end homes, Selling to the moderate and low end market.
What ever you do you can not be a Notary, loan officer, insurance salesman, and work a title company part time.
So if you plan to sell houses specialize in selling houses. If you are gonna specialize in selling commercial properties specialize in selling commercial properties.
Your professional team will be the one to farm other things out to that you don't specialize in. They will refer things to you that you don't specialize in.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
'FIGHT ON';Any real estate agents have advice for people aspiring to get there license?
A few things --
Network. Always network. Every single person you meet or talk to could be a potential client.
Being a realtor is not a license to think you are above everyone in the food chain. You may bring business to your favorite Escrow Officer but you could pick up business from other escrow personnel, insurance agents, loan officers, etc.
Always leave a lasting impression of professionalism. Don't think that your phone will ring off the wall - or that flyers will bring you business.
Come up a marketing plan to sell yourself.
Good Luck.
Check your spelling.
Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
i just had a little girl on the 30th and the past 2 nights she has waken up and wants to eat for like 2 hours straight when through out the day she only eats for 30 minutes at a time, by the way i breast feed. what can i do to help her sleep more through the night or at least eat less when she wakes up at night?Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
Breast milk is not as filing as formula so until your baby starts on cereal she probably will eat allot. She has probably got her days and nights mixed up and there's not much you can do about that until she gets a little older. I have breast fed 3 kids and the best advice I can give is stick it out . The first 3 weeks are the hardest but after you get used to it you will be happy you stuck it out it gets much easier.Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
That is just her feeding schedule...a baby's feeding schedule is like everyones fingerprints, they are all unique and all differ. people will tell you to put baby cereal in her bottle....DON'T!!! bad idea you can make your baby sick or choke. You can try breast feeding and bottle feeding during the night...
She is not old enough yet to have a routine. Right now, you need to feed her on demand so that your milk supply gets established. Her routine or schedule will work itself out by about 4-6 weeks of age. Stick with it. It is SO worth it! Good job and get lots of support.
Read this book! And watch the DVD!!
'The Happiest Baby on the Block'.
She is nursing for comfort at night when she nurses for 2 hours. Using the techniques in the book I mentioned will help her stay asleep. And make sure you're feeding her enough during the day. She's probably going to need to be fed at least every hour and a half. Breastmilk is more easily digested than formula so she may eat more often than formula fed babies and may wake up more at night. Formula forms large curds in the stomach as it's being digested that gives the baby a feeling of fullness for longer than breastfed babies. Feed her close to when she goes to bed also but don't nurse her to sleep!!!! If she falls asleep nursing, wake her up. You should be putting her to bed awake, otherwise she will have a hard time learning how to soothe herself to fall asleep.
A bedtime routine is infinitely helpful. You start the routine at the same time every night. We did bathtime, feeding and storytime.
She's not nursing those 2 hours at night. She's using your breast as a pacifier, which is what I would suggest you switch her to after the first 30 mins and let her learn to self-calm with that (which means letting her cry for a while until she learns it's ok and mom doesn't have to be right there for 2 hours straight). If you don't, you're going to end up with breasts that are too sore to nurse at all and then you and baby will be in a pickle.
This used to happen to me too. She is conforting herself with you....and my baby girl used to be like that....of course she will not sleep for long period of time now because she feeds I guess every 2 hours .... this is mormal at this stage but this will pass, she's just so tiny she probably needs to feel you close and cuddle, she's just knwing the world and needs you now. Have patience and good luck
When her rythmic sucking slows down and changes to sporadic sucking, she is full she is just enjoying you as she would a dummy. I agree with a previous answer, buy a pacifier.
Does she cry alot if you stop feeding her after a half an hour?
First of all CONGRATS!!! And way to go on the decision to breastfeed!
#1 When you lay your little one down give her a pacifier. It helps to soothe AND....helps to prevent SIDS.
#2 Try to feed her more during the day...even when she doesn't seem hungry.
#3 Keep her up more during the day. Though, being this young...it may not work.
#4 Play soft music or have a humidifier going at night (it can help them sleep longer)
#5 When she has eaten for a little bit at night slip her the pacifier...she may not even notice.
#6 If you are careful you could put her in bed with you and BF her on your side laying down(that way you could sleep through it).
Just remember that your sweet girl needs to eat at least every 3-4 hours. So you will need to wake her up at night to eat anway.
Oh, she is still so little and growing like crazy. Dont expect her to sleep much more than she is for some time..Try to figure out how you can nurse her, and maybe still get some sleep.. Maybe if you have a recliner that you can nurse her in, and still sleep? She needs to eat this much..Sorry! They just do.. You are doing the absolute best for her! Congrats! Believe it or not, you will get used to getting up with her and nursing her.. Make sure you are taking naps in the day time to catch up on what sleep you have missed... Good job Mama!!!
I breastfed my first baby and am currently breastfeeding my second.
You have to remember that her tummy is very small. She can only hold so much milk inside it. That's why it seems like she's constantly hungry, she's a growing baby! It's ok to feed her whenever she wants it, her body knows what it's doing.
She should be eating between 8 and 12 times in a 24 hour period. This will not last forever. As she grows her tummy will hold more and she will be able to go longer in between feedings.
She should eat about 20 minutes on one side. I found it helpful to stop feeding my baby about 10 minutes in and burp him, and then get him to try to eat more on the same side. Sometimes babies nurse that long because the latch isn't right, if you feel like it, call a lactation consultant and they can guide you through latching her on correctly. You can find an LC by calling your hospital and they can connect you.
All babies are different. My first baby would take up to 45 minutes to nurse. I would have to tickle his feet and rub his back to keep him awake to nurse. My second is usually all done in 15-20. As your baby grows, she'll be more efficient and not take as long.
ALL babies' nights and days are a little mixed up at first, here is how you help fix it:
*Feed her every two to three hours during the day, wake her up if you have to. Interact with her during the day, coo and play with her.
*At night, let her go as long as she wants between feedings. Keep lights low and noise to a minimum. You want her to figure out that being awake at night isn't as much fun. It will take a few weeks, that's normal.
PLEASE, her body is too small to sleep through the night yet. She simply can't hold enough milk to be able to do it. She's waking up because she's starving. You must feed her.
It's impossible to spoil a baby younger than 2 months. They don't learn any habits until after 2 months. Do whatever you need to do to get through the days and nights. This time doesn't last forever, just weeks, I promise.
I'd recommend making someone you know run to the book store or library for The Nursing Mother's Companion Guide. It's got a lot of good, detailed information. I'm linking a few sites that also have excellent information. Read as much as you can, breastfeeding is natural, but sometimes you have to educate yourself on how best to procede.
Good luck! And remember, listen to your heart, you're the mom and you know best.
That's weird a baby this young usually don't stay awake through a whole feeding. If the baby is falling a sleep then let her go to sleep she will wake up when she's hungry again. If you have more questions or you can email me with more details. I would be more then happy to help you.
Encourage her to eat more often during the day. Offer every 1 1/2 to 2 hours, and let her eat more frequently if she is hungry. Encourage her to nurse frequently in the evening just before she goes to sleep. Most infants have a period like your daughter's at some point during the day where they want too nurse for hours straight. Work on moving that time earlier.
Let her sleep when she wants to during the day, but make the times when she is awake bright and full of stimulation - talk to her, set some brightly colored toys within her reach, etc. During the night when she wakes up to nurse, keep light and stimulation to a minimum. Make nightime boring for her.
For now (it will take her a few weeks to change her habits) learn to nurse lying down and bring her to your bed for her 2 hour nursing marathon so that you can at least rest while she is eating.
My son did this same thing. After a few weeks (I think by 1 month) he had moved his long nursing session to just before bedtime. He also did (and still does) sleep in our bed. If you go that route in a few weeks you will be able to wake up, latch him on and go right back to sleep and get 8+ hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep. Just be sure to keep blankets and pillows away from him, as they are a suffocation hazard for small babies. Good luck!! Good for you for breastfeeding and giving your baby the very best start in life. Whatever you try to do, realize that this is a short phase - this too shall pass!
Breast milk is not as filing as formula so until your baby starts on cereal she probably will eat allot. She has probably got her days and nights mixed up and there's not much you can do about that until she gets a little older. I have breast fed 3 kids and the best advice I can give is stick it out . The first 3 weeks are the hardest but after you get used to it you will be happy you stuck it out it gets much easier.Needing any advice possible from people who are or have breast fed?
That is just her feeding schedule...a baby's feeding schedule is like everyones fingerprints, they are all unique and all differ. people will tell you to put baby cereal in her bottle....DON'T!!! bad idea you can make your baby sick or choke. You can try breast feeding and bottle feeding during the night...
She is not old enough yet to have a routine. Right now, you need to feed her on demand so that your milk supply gets established. Her routine or schedule will work itself out by about 4-6 weeks of age. Stick with it. It is SO worth it! Good job and get lots of support.
Read this book! And watch the DVD!!
'The Happiest Baby on the Block'.
She is nursing for comfort at night when she nurses for 2 hours. Using the techniques in the book I mentioned will help her stay asleep. And make sure you're feeding her enough during the day. She's probably going to need to be fed at least every hour and a half. Breastmilk is more easily digested than formula so she may eat more often than formula fed babies and may wake up more at night. Formula forms large curds in the stomach as it's being digested that gives the baby a feeling of fullness for longer than breastfed babies. Feed her close to when she goes to bed also but don't nurse her to sleep!!!! If she falls asleep nursing, wake her up. You should be putting her to bed awake, otherwise she will have a hard time learning how to soothe herself to fall asleep.
A bedtime routine is infinitely helpful. You start the routine at the same time every night. We did bathtime, feeding and storytime.
She's not nursing those 2 hours at night. She's using your breast as a pacifier, which is what I would suggest you switch her to after the first 30 mins and let her learn to self-calm with that (which means letting her cry for a while until she learns it's ok and mom doesn't have to be right there for 2 hours straight). If you don't, you're going to end up with breasts that are too sore to nurse at all and then you and baby will be in a pickle.
This used to happen to me too. She is conforting herself with you....and my baby girl used to be like that....of course she will not sleep for long period of time now because she feeds I guess every 2 hours .... this is mormal at this stage but this will pass, she's just so tiny she probably needs to feel you close and cuddle, she's just knwing the world and needs you now. Have patience and good luck
When her rythmic sucking slows down and changes to sporadic sucking, she is full she is just enjoying you as she would a dummy. I agree with a previous answer, buy a pacifier.
Does she cry alot if you stop feeding her after a half an hour?
First of all CONGRATS!!! And way to go on the decision to breastfeed!
#1 When you lay your little one down give her a pacifier. It helps to soothe AND....helps to prevent SIDS.
#2 Try to feed her more during the day...even when she doesn't seem hungry.
#3 Keep her up more during the day. Though, being this young...it may not work.
#4 Play soft music or have a humidifier going at night (it can help them sleep longer)
#5 When she has eaten for a little bit at night slip her the pacifier...she may not even notice.
#6 If you are careful you could put her in bed with you and BF her on your side laying down(that way you could sleep through it).
Just remember that your sweet girl needs to eat at least every 3-4 hours. So you will need to wake her up at night to eat anway.
Oh, she is still so little and growing like crazy. Dont expect her to sleep much more than she is for some time..Try to figure out how you can nurse her, and maybe still get some sleep.. Maybe if you have a recliner that you can nurse her in, and still sleep? She needs to eat this much..Sorry! They just do.. You are doing the absolute best for her! Congrats! Believe it or not, you will get used to getting up with her and nursing her.. Make sure you are taking naps in the day time to catch up on what sleep you have missed... Good job Mama!!!
I breastfed my first baby and am currently breastfeeding my second.
You have to remember that her tummy is very small. She can only hold so much milk inside it. That's why it seems like she's constantly hungry, she's a growing baby! It's ok to feed her whenever she wants it, her body knows what it's doing.
She should be eating between 8 and 12 times in a 24 hour period. This will not last forever. As she grows her tummy will hold more and she will be able to go longer in between feedings.
She should eat about 20 minutes on one side. I found it helpful to stop feeding my baby about 10 minutes in and burp him, and then get him to try to eat more on the same side. Sometimes babies nurse that long because the latch isn't right, if you feel like it, call a lactation consultant and they can guide you through latching her on correctly. You can find an LC by calling your hospital and they can connect you.
All babies are different. My first baby would take up to 45 minutes to nurse. I would have to tickle his feet and rub his back to keep him awake to nurse. My second is usually all done in 15-20. As your baby grows, she'll be more efficient and not take as long.
ALL babies' nights and days are a little mixed up at first, here is how you help fix it:
*Feed her every two to three hours during the day, wake her up if you have to. Interact with her during the day, coo and play with her.
*At night, let her go as long as she wants between feedings. Keep lights low and noise to a minimum. You want her to figure out that being awake at night isn't as much fun. It will take a few weeks, that's normal.
PLEASE, her body is too small to sleep through the night yet. She simply can't hold enough milk to be able to do it. She's waking up because she's starving. You must feed her.
It's impossible to spoil a baby younger than 2 months. They don't learn any habits until after 2 months. Do whatever you need to do to get through the days and nights. This time doesn't last forever, just weeks, I promise.
I'd recommend making someone you know run to the book store or library for The Nursing Mother's Companion Guide. It's got a lot of good, detailed information. I'm linking a few sites that also have excellent information. Read as much as you can, breastfeeding is natural, but sometimes you have to educate yourself on how best to procede.
Good luck! And remember, listen to your heart, you're the mom and you know best.
That's weird a baby this young usually don't stay awake through a whole feeding. If the baby is falling a sleep then let her go to sleep she will wake up when she's hungry again. If you have more questions or you can email me with more details. I would be more then happy to help you.
Encourage her to eat more often during the day. Offer every 1 1/2 to 2 hours, and let her eat more frequently if she is hungry. Encourage her to nurse frequently in the evening just before she goes to sleep. Most infants have a period like your daughter's at some point during the day where they want too nurse for hours straight. Work on moving that time earlier.
Let her sleep when she wants to during the day, but make the times when she is awake bright and full of stimulation - talk to her, set some brightly colored toys within her reach, etc. During the night when she wakes up to nurse, keep light and stimulation to a minimum. Make nightime boring for her.
For now (it will take her a few weeks to change her habits) learn to nurse lying down and bring her to your bed for her 2 hour nursing marathon so that you can at least rest while she is eating.
My son did this same thing. After a few weeks (I think by 1 month) he had moved his long nursing session to just before bedtime. He also did (and still does) sleep in our bed. If you go that route in a few weeks you will be able to wake up, latch him on and go right back to sleep and get 8+ hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep. Just be sure to keep blankets and pillows away from him, as they are a suffocation hazard for small babies. Good luck!! Good for you for breastfeeding and giving your baby the very best start in life. Whatever you try to do, realize that this is a short phase - this too shall pass!
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