Why is it easy to give advice to the other people, while I can't solve the problems of my own?

I love giving warm advice to the others, like when someone is suffering from the depression or just broke up with loved ones.





But why can't I do it to myself? Very often, I feel so easily devastated and feel like there is no way to solve the problems.





Can you help me?





Thank you.Why is it easy to give advice to the other people, while I can't solve the problems of my own?
because with other people you have the comfort of knowing that their problems arent yours. you're just a spectator. but when its your own problem, you want other peoples advice because they have an outsider's point of view. trust me, i have the same problem!Why is it easy to give advice to the other people, while I can't solve the problems of my own?
In my own experiance supporting others in a time of need is the right thing to do. However in recent times when things have gone very bad I could not confide in others. I have recently relised that by always being there for others takes the focus off of my own personal issues. By filling my waking hours with others well being it was easy to ignore my own needs untill they demand my attention. I find writing my problems down in a note book helps me to clarify what I need to look at. I personal find my head buzzes at night when I am trying to sleep, so that's when I use a notebook. It is full of complete rubbish however if I notice something reoccuring than I know it needs looking at. And most important take sometime out for yourself. If you don't look out for yourself who eles will????


Keep smiling you will find what you are looking for as long as you give yourself the time.
by looking at their problem from an outside point of view you don't see the significance of all the little intricacies which make the problem unresolveable to that person.
It can be maddening. But it is easy to help others but very difficult to help yourself. I think that because you know yourself more than anyone it is difficult to help yourself because you can see the flaw in the plan. Since you don't know about the person you are giving advice to it is easy because you don't see the flaw. But nothing is impossible. There is always a way to help yourself. Keep trying.
your personality is of a giver. Not a taker. So,when things are not right, you tend to try to solve it yourself. Sometimes its good to have someone to lean on in times of distress. Sometimes warm fuzzy kind answers are not going to help any. Why so devastated?
Because you are to close to yourself to give an objective answer. Outside perspective gives you clarity that allows you to give someone else better advise.
Are you sure you aren't my soul twin, i find the exact same thing. I find it very easy to console others and figure out their problems but my own always get to me. I think its just the type of person we are, we are very giving to others and it is that trait that motivates us to work out their problems for them, but when we have our own problems we don't know how to deal with it so it gets us down. I hope you aren't having any problems yourself right now or you wouldn't be asking this question would you?
There are various reason. The most obvious to me is that we have better control of our emotions when it is not our problem.





Why let yourself feel divested? What is your answer to this question?





I could give you my answer but I'm sure yours is just as good, maybe better.
All problems can be solved somehow,maybe you have no empathy for yourself. If your friends need you for help,why not go to them for the same? If they are real friends and not just people that drain you. Sounds like you are fragile and depressed,call a Mental Health Clinic and get some objective help,or at least someone YOU can confide in. Some persons who are ';The Rock of Gibraltar'; need to have help too, and even rocks can crumble.
When you give advise your looking at the problem from a outside perspective, when its your problem you constantly contradict your self.
because actions have and always will speak louder then wards